If you’re like a lot of guys, you occasionally go through a dry spell. Whether it’s because you’re in between girlfriends or because your relationship has started to go stale, you’re just not having as much sex as you used to. Shit happens. The thing is, sex is great, and if you’re just not having enough of it, life starts to get boring.
But this is 2015, time for a new year, a new you, and more (better!) sex. The good news is that it’s pretty easy to get out of a sexless rut, and with these ten quick tips you’ll be on the fast track to improving your sex life in no time:
1) Change your routine.
How many places have you tried to pick up women in the past year? Two? Three? Do you have a favorite bar you go to, a fun place that’s so awesome you’re a regular there? Then congratulations, you’re part of your own problem. It might seem like a good idea to get to know your stomping grounds intimately, but how many women do you think are regulars there, just like you? When do you think you’ll stop seeing new faces? At some point, you’re either going to fall into a rut of running out of women to approach or of seeing the exact same kind of woman over and over again. It’s boring. You need to check out different clubs—and different TYPES of clubs—to meet more and diverse women, or you risk running out of women, period.
2) Find a class or activity that allows you to meet a lot of women.
Speaking of changing your routine, if you rely solely on bars and clubs to pick up women, you’re cutting your chances of meeting women IN HALF. Not only that, you’re also reducing your chances of meeting quality women. Enroll in an exercise club. Join a local running group. Go hiking with the local outdoorsy clubs every Saturday morning. You can still go out and bring women home from the clubs every week, but socializing in the daytime doubles the number of women you’ll meet. The added bonus is that having a shared interest with a girl makes you look infinitely more interesting to her, AND if you’re looking for more than just sex, daytime socializing makes you more likely to meet girlfriend material.
3) Clean / upgrade your living area.
I once met a guy I thought was perfect. He was gorgeous, he had an incredible personality, and it was like we were made for each other. So I went home with him. As soon as he opened the door, I was assaulted by a smell so foul I wanted to gag. His was the most disgusting apartment in California. There was trash everywhere, a dirty litterbox, soiled puppy training pads, it was disgusting. I felt like I needed a tetanus shot. It completely ruined the moment. A guy doesn’t have to be Martha Stewart, but having a filthy, disgusting place is a death sentence for your sex life. No girl wants you to bend her over the kitchen table when there’s moldy pizza on it. Give yourself 15 minutes a day to clean a different room in your place and cleaning becomes a much quicker task, and the ladies will thank you for it. (I never saw Mr. Cat Piss again.)
Furthermore, if you have a cool pad it makes the girl much more comfortable and interested when she comes to visit. If you can show her your cool fish tank, your artwork, items you collect, and other “interesting” stuff, the mood will generally be a lot more relaxed and comfortable. Sex then becomes more inevitable. Plus have a stocked fridge full of alcohol and things become a lot more fun all of a sudden.
4) Make your bedroom a sexual sanctuary.
Even if you have a spotlessly clean house, your bedroom can still completely kill a woman’s desire to sleep with you. A cluttered bedroom overflowing with clothes and packed with video games sends the message that you’re still stuck in your teenage years, but an excessively Spartan bedroom with little more than a mattress on the floor and nothing on the walls also tells a girl that you’re boring. A bedroom should be warm and inviting. Don’t feel afraid to invest in candles or a dark red bedspread and curtains; candles are an easy way to set the mood, and red is a sexual power color.
5) Work on your sex appeal.
If you want women to sleep with you, they have to WANT to sleep with you. Improve your hairstyle. Update your wardrobe. Join a gym. Do you want to sleep with the fat chick who wears man jeans and never showers? No? I didn’t think so. So why would you expect beautiful women to want to sleep with a guy like that? The thing you have to remember is that the more beautiful the woman, the more selective she can afford to be with the men she sleeps with, and the harder you’re going to have to try. If you’re not a classically attractive guy, that’s okay, because being fashionable goes a long way and shows that you’re willing to put forth some effort. And there’s an added bonus—working out not only increases your levels of testosterone and therefore your sex drive, it also makes you release pheromones that are more attractive to women.
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Written by Cindy Young