Vanae Tran is a relationship coach who helps others to achieve and improve relationship with themselves and others. She writes for her blog which can be found at Vanae.com and makes videos for her youtube channel, Vanae12.
Why do Women Love Assholes?
A question I hear so often….
I believe there are generally three types of guys:
1) passive 2) assertive 3) asshole
It’s not that we dig assholes (no pun intended..or is that really a pun?). We want REAL MEN! Individuals who are assertive, confident, strong (inner and outer), communicative, gentlemanly, exciting, unpredictable and make women feel wanted!
What we DON’T want (just as men wouldn’t either):
To be disrespected, smothered, overpowered, or mistreated.
Quality women know how to identify REAL MEN from ASSHOLES. And if she’s truly dating an asshole, then she’s probably not the person you want to date in the first place. Look, nice/passive guys don’t necessarily finish last..but assertive guys definitely finish before them. That’s because these men go for what they want.
So the real question is: How do you become more assertive?
1. Know your strengths
Spend time to reflect on what your strengths are and present those qualities.
2. Live it up!
The more passionate you are..the more traveled.. the more rounded you are, the more you’ll naturally have to talk about. Come off as interesting and have good conversations.
3. Follow through
If you think, feel, or plan something…make sure you complete it! No half-assed-ness!
4. Keep it light…enjoy yourself
Don’t sabotage yourself with lots of pressure. Think of it as meeting a new friend and keep it light. If it goes well, then great. If it doesn’t, no sweat off your back.
5. Say NO!
No need to always agree or give in because you think that’s what he/she wants.
6. Take charge!
How is a female supposed to know that you’re interested if you don’t flirt with her and ask her out? Who knows? She might be feeling the same!
7. Be true to yourself
Why mold yourself into someone you’re not? Be genuine and make decisions with your gut feelings.
Did you find these effective? What are some of your tips that worked well? I would love to hear them! As always, thanks for being my V’stars!
Vanae’s tip of the dae: When someone offends you, learn from it. Ever feel offended by someone’s comment or response to you? Sure, it’s natural to feel hurt…but step back and reflect. It’s not what he/she did, but what you can gain from it..whether it makes you stronger, changes you for the better, or solidifies even more so what you already stand for. Remember… you can turn anything negative into something positive!
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Written by Editorial Staff