You showed too much interest
If you were easily seduced, a man will lose interest in you. Men like what they can’t have.
Remedy: Remember that you should be playful and fun, but never easy. Don’t try to win his affections. Instead you need to make him win yours. If he
asks for your number don’t give it so easily. Think about it for a second and then say, “Sure, we can hang out sometime if I’m not busy.” This way the man
will think that he has somewhat succeeded in “getting you” but he knows that you probably have other men in your life and that he will need to try a little
harder.
You didn’t show ENOUGH interest
This one is on the opposite end of the spectrum to number 10. You need to get him into a comfort zone where he will ask for your number.
Remedy: Flirting is the key here. Guys aren’t always as social as women, therefore it is up to you to keep a conversation going and interesting if
the conversation is dying. Escalate your level of interest by initiating some physical contact (touch hands, hair, thigh) and show that you are interested in
this guy. Remember, don’t go overboard with the interest because it can cause him to actually LOSE interest in you, especially if the guy knows that women
are drawn to him.
You had a negative image
Guys can tell from the tone of your voice and your body language about how you are feeling.
Remedy: Keeping a smile on your face and looking relaxed will assure your man that you are still interested. Make sure, if you are going on a date,
that you dress up slightly nicer than what you would wear in a casual setting. Men sometimes will gauge your interest level in him by your clothing. If
you’re dressed super sexy, it will indicate to him that you want him. If you dress casual it will indicate to him that you think of him as a friend to leech
off of.
You didn’t connect with him on a deeper level
If he finds out you’re as dumb as a rock (see Jessica Simpson), he won’t connect with you on a deeper level.
Remedy: Experience life. Don’t act ditzy. It’s quite simple. Try to show your sophistication. Share some of your interests. Share stories about
yourself and try to demonstrate that you are an interesting person to be friends with. Go to the book store and buy a book.
He’s trying to demonstrate his own worth
Men tend to wait a while before calling. He may also expect you to call. This way he doesn’t seem too clingy and he can take the upper hand in the
relationship. This kind of attitude is a “I could have you, but I’ve got other things to do, so I won’t initiate the call” attitude.
Remedy: Sometimes you will have to take the initiative. Give him a casual call to say hi, but don’t hint at any future dates. This is sometimes the
sign that a man will wait for to see if you are really interested in him. If the man is especially desirable in society (rich, good looking, etc), then yes,
you do want to take the initiative to give him the call. He might not want to get rejected, therefore he waits until you call him first.
Written by Steven Lin