Dr. Asian Rake is a dating consultant and a full-time professor at a top research university. Currently based in Singapore, he guides select clients to improve their lifestyles. To learn more about him and his services and products, visit www.asianrake.com.
I train men to be good with women and to realize their dating dreams. My job is a little like what you see in the movie, Hitch, starring Will Smith.
Why do I do it? Day after day, I see really great guys, who would make awesome boyfriends and husbands, going dateless and losing hope. And I’m fed up. I know from my experience that I can make a dramatic difference in people’s relationships and dating lives. And I cannot stand by anymore as so many men are forced to wallow in lonely lives of quiet desperation because they’re ignorant about how to get better with the other gender.
Here’s the first and biggest step; it’s required for mastering the social arts. And it’s got nothing to do with women per se. It’s all about YOU.
Become happy with who you are and how you are living your life. This is the best way to build confidence.
Most of us aren’t content with ourselves. The lucky few who are should know they are way ahead of the game.
This joyful positivity about life is infectious and extremely attractive.
This doesn’t mean being complacent. It means being proud of how far you’ve come and with where you’re going in life.
Many men come to me asking, “Tell me what to say to a girl to get her to like me.” They want “the five magical pick-up lines that will get you any woman.”
I can give them the exact words that have worked for me and for others, but it won’t matter.
Unless they are in the right place emotionally, their body language, tonality, and sub-communications will sabotage them. High quality women can feel when a man’s words are just a façade, masking debilitating insecurities and neediness.
All women say they like a man with “confidence.”
There are many ways to build confidence. The most common is to accumulate lots of external reference experiences. The drawback is that this takes a lot of time if it happens at all.
A far better way is to draw your confidence internally.
When you are so comfortable with the person you have become, including all your foibles, that no one can faze you or cause you to doubt otherwise, then you will draw people into your reality naturally and effortlessly. This is true, internally-based confidence.
Written by Editorial Staff