Hi, I'm really hoping someone here can help me out, most of my friends don't really understand whats going on.

Basically, the situation is:
About a year and a half ago, around October/November 2005, when I was still in high school (grade 12), I randomly met this girl (grade 10) one night, and we hit it off pretty well. We became pretty good friends really quickly. We were interested in the same things, we were in the same program at school, I helped her out once in a while, basically things were good. As it turns out (my friends noticed this before I did), I really liked her. At first, when people asked me, I didn't think much of it, I just thought we were really good friends (mainly because I have similar relationships with many of my friends). But I started thinking about what my friends were telling me, and then i found myself thinking about her more and more. I had concluded that I did indeed like her, alot. Due to some family events that had happened earlier that year (my father had to go in for some heart surgery, he's well and fine now, if anyone's wondering), I learned that life could end at any time, and so, from then on, I had decided to live life to the fullest, be honest to myself and others, not hide the truth, and face the consequences. It was working well, too, so things were really good for me at that point. So, around January of last year (2007), about half way through, actually, more toward the end, probably, I had told her (to some extent) how I felt about her. She took it quite well, so I was fairly pleased. We'd still talk once in a while (we had both gotten busier in the new term), and every now and then we'd hang out. But in mid-february, I told her exactly how I had felt about her, and it didn't turn out too well (I could elaborate if it would help, but not unless I have to, as you can probably guess, there are some painful memories).

She reacted far worse than I had predicted, in the sense that she abruptly stopped talking to me, and even started to avoid me sometimes. It hurt me alot, I think I even cried once in a while. But, because I had such wonderful friends, they tried to talk to her, and patch things up for us, so that we could still save our friendship. She started talking to me once in a while, but I could tell it was hollow conversation. But, just to appease my heart, I let myself continue like that, because the hollow conversation was better than nothing, I could at least hear the sound of her voice, I could see her face. However, in March, she decided to revert back to the form of not talking to me ever. I tried to contact her once in a while, but to no avail. By april, she had sent me an email saying that she didn't appreciate what I had done, and that she never wanted to see or talk to me again.

I was crushed and devastated. Even though she was a bit younger than me, I thought it could have really worked out. She was so much more mature than other people her age.

However, this email placed my brain and heart as polar opposites. My brain said I should leave her, but my heart wanted to talk to her one last time, just to know why, because she never said. So every once in a while, I'd try to message her on MSN, usually she didn't message back, except one day, in June, when I congratulated her on her excellence award, she said thanks. We chatted for a bit there, it was like how it used to be. I was happy. A few months later (this would be around late october), I messaged her again, and we caught up a bit, since we haven't really known what went on in each others lives for a while (actually, I knew a bit of what was happening in hers, because every once in a while, I'd talk to a mutual friend and ask how she's doing). But about a year after we had met, so last november, I asked her how she felt about the year, to which she responded parts were good, parts were bad. I'm not sure why, but I decided to ask which part was good, the half with me, or the half without, which she refused to respond to.

In mid december, exactly one year after I had come to the conclusion that I did like her, I messaged her on facebook, saying something to the extent of "its been a year, thats all i have to say" to which she responded that I should "get over it," that I should "shut the f*** up," that I'm a "f***ing Jacka**" etc. etc. And a few days after that, someone logged onto her MSN, and starting to talk to me saying that she never liked me one bit (which anyone who had ever seen us together would know is a lie), that she hated my guts, that she'd rather I be dead, etc.

Again, I was crushed, because I truly though i loved this girl, seeing as I took just about every step I could to restore our friendship. My broken heart still hasn't healed from this ordeal, and every now and then, I come to the conclusion that I miss her. And sometimes I cry. And people who know me, know that if I could go back in time and undo anything that had happened in my life, I wouldn't change a thing, because everything that has happened made me who I am today, but what I did last february, I would change, because it hurts so much. I truly miss her, I ind myself thinking about her all the time, my heart would race everytime I would see her picture, or read her name.

And I don't know what to do.
Should I forget about her and try to move on, or should I try to contact her to find out why she doesn't enjoy my company so I can have some closure to this relationship, or should I try to restore our old friendship?

Sorry for the length, its just that none of my friends understand, and I really needed someone to talk to.

I'm a little confused... When you told her what you felt on January 2007, she took the confession quite well but when you aired you're feelings again on February, you've got the cold shoulder? Did I get it right? What happened in between that time?

Maybe there's some external forces that made her change her mind... You have to know what these factors so that you can better understand what's going on... Maybe she learned something bad that changed her mind... Maybe someone badmouth you... I'm not privy to the details so I'm just speculating here...

But if she's not talking then that's it... You already wasted a year pondering about the situation. If she doesn't like you anymore then it's her loss, not yours... Move on with your life... She's not the only girl that you'll fall for... The best is yet to come!

Bro, you need to realize that she stopped talking to you because she either found sum1 else or just doesn't like you anymore than a friend. The problem is that she probably just doesn't like you and she is avoiding you so you won't get any more misconceptions about her. She's doing these things to stop you from chasing her and to give you a hint to move on. It would be worse to lead you on.

I hope I'm not too blunt with this, but it's over. You're even struggling with trying to mend your friendship back together. And her friends seem to be completely against you if they were talking mean things about you. Whether the impression her friends have of you were given to them by the girl you like or if they came up with it on their own, I don't know, but both situations seem pretty bad.

Honestly, this has been going on too long. I know a year isn't much, but the way things are going, you can't fix it today or tomorrow. You'll have to give it some time. A lot of time, when you've moved on, maybe loved another girl and maybe you'll find your friendship be fixed.

Also don't stress out so much on this girl. I don't know exactly how you feel, but do your best to worry about other things. Keep your cool, because right now, and sorry if I'm too blunt again, you seem to be very desperate to get anything from her. Girls hate that. She doesn't want to worry about the guy who she had fun with as a friend. She just wants to feel comfortable, and unfortunately, because of your feelings, you sort of pushed her away, and it was awkward. You should've backed off then and given her and you a lot of time to try and sort each other's feelings and you to move on before getting deeper into your infatuation with this girl.

So I guess to answer your question, You should do your best to move on. You don't need to know why she doesn't like your company anymore. It's probably already obvious why she can't be in your company and it's not something you can fix by yourself and might even make it worse. Instead any hope you have in restoring what you once had is with time. Maybe a long time.

Years ago mon ami, I had a similar situation and as it turned out [this being some years later], that the lady in question loved the fact that we were buds and that it ended there. Being me, I feel I wanted to take it to another level. Bad move on my part. It made her mad that I ruined the relationship we had and it could not be reversed because she felt she would always be under pressure when with me or with our friends. She felt betrayed, though I would have died for her. Nothing to this day will change the situation so I moved on but keep my good memories next to my heart. You can find healing in time, but we NEVER forget. It's the things like this that make us strong.

just go on with your life and forget about her how can you save a frienship that ha long been broken? pick up yourself and move on

This girl seems like a real.....well..."you-know-what". She obviously has no care for your feelings. I don't know why but sometimes people just all of a sudden change on you. It sucks and it hurts but life goes on. I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will get over this in time. You had real love for this chick and got your heart broken when she treated you like garbage so you have every right to hurt.

But just don't let it last for too long. There's many fish out there and she just wasn't the right one for you.

And also, try not to let this make you bitter! There's a really sweet girl out there for you somewhere and if you let this change you, you will definitely miss out on Mrs. Right

dude forget about her man maybe you just gotta accept that shes a hoe....lol JK
its probably cuz she found someone else or that she just doesnt want to be around you......
all this time you were liking her but did you ever stop to realize who might have a crush on you?
maybe she knew who liked you and dint want to ruin it for that girl..just my opinion here