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EyezChinky · (This post was last modified: 08-01-2006 02:24 PM by EyezChinky.)

We have been friends for the last year when we had several of the same classes, however, I think she only sees me as a friend who helps her out with homework and school stuff. I try to talk with her casually, but she doesn't seem like she has much to say sometimes. But we do talk a lot over AIM and at school. What can I do to make her hook up with me?

She also has other guys that flirt with her and she flirts back, but I'm not sure if she likes them or they like her.

What are some tips you can give me?

TwilightGirl · 08-01-2006, 02:20 PM

it will be hard, she may only think of you as a brain to leech off of. But since you like her, she must either be good-looking or has a good-personality. Hopefully if she has the good personality, you can slowly ask her to hang out with you, start flirting a bit with her to find out if she atleast considers you cute.

Anyways, good luck.

***Lance*** · 08-01-2006, 02:29 PM

Do you think you have a good chance of hooking up with her? If not just be good friends for now and then when you two are alone, preferably in a romantic setting, pop the question and hope she says yes. However, don't get your hopes too high, you could get crushed.

Know theres a lot of girls out there, you will eventually fall for another if you give it time.

Good luck.

**Wolf Man** · 08-01-2006, 02:45 PM

Yes, you do have hope. If you're already a good friend of hers that she can count on, thats a good start.

First, get to know her outside of school. This is important because she would see your social life than just your school life. But dont ask her to a dinner yet because that is basically asking the girl on a date. (suggestions: the mall, the movies as long as it isn't btwn just you and her, some sports game that she is interested in) It'll be the best if some or your friends are her friends so it will not let her know that u are interested in her yet, but it is still alright if that is not the case. Just let her know first that you're a great friend to hang out with both in and outside of school.

After that, slowly show clues that you might be interested in her. Start a conversation like, "So what kind of guys do you like?" Listen to her response carefully. When she's finished and asks you, "What about you? what kind of girls do you like?" Describe that person's characteristics and personality but obviously without revealing her identity. Then think about the response she gave you about what kind of guys she likes. If your description fits, great. But if you dont, try to adjust or change a little bit so you might fit. Don't totally change your personality though. Do all of this personally or on the phone btw. Try to avoid relationship stuff on AIM.

Then, slowly prove to her that you are different from those other guys that might flirt with her. Always be confident and stay calm. Try to be yourself. And if you think you are ready, ask her to the movies. but ALWAYS have the date ready. be like, "hey u wanna go to the movies with me this friday?" kinda like that. If she says yes, great. But always be prepared to say no. If she does, dont give up. keep being a close friend of hers and maybe try again later.

well, hope it helps man. tell me how it goes. dont give up. other members in this site might help u too.

EyezChinky · 08-01-2006, 03:00 PM

really thoughtful post for all of you guys, I will try them out. I will probably just ask her if she wants to go catch a movie or hang out later on.

WahJah · 08-03-2006, 02:55 PM

Just forget about it. The truth is she probably sees you as a friend. Possibly a minor friend. You should probably go and find another girl.

I liked a girl for four years and I helped her with school AND emotional issues like when she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Even after four years of being there, she only sees me as a friend. I was hurt. But I got over it. It's her choice.

EyezChinky · 08-03-2006, 02:58 PM

WahJah Wrote:Just forget about it. The truth is she probably sees you as a friend. Possibly a minor friend. You should probably go and find another girl.

I liked a girl for four years and I helped her with school AND emotional issues like when she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Even after four years of being there, she only sees me as a friend. I was hurt. But I got over it. It's her choice.

hah, in that case, I might as well go for it, I mean, I got nothing to lose. If she truly doesn't feel that way I can just move on.

WahJah · 08-03-2006, 03:18 PM

EyezChinky Wrote:
WahJah Wrote:Just forget about it. The truth is she probably sees you as a friend. Possibly a minor friend. You should probably go and find another girl.

I liked a girl for four years and I helped her with school AND emotional issues like when she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years. Even after four years of being there, she only sees me as a friend. I was hurt. But I got over it. It's her choice.

hah, in that case, I might as well go for it, I mean, I got nothing to lose. If she truly doesn't feel that way I can just move on.

Yeah. That can work. But be prepared for anything. Like if she suddenly turned into a mystical princess from another world.

babiexd · 08-05-2006, 03:31 PM

From a girl's point of view, if she only sees u as a friend, she sees you as a friend. You can give it time, and maybe something will blossom. But...if you were her "boyfriend type", then i think she would've shown more interest in you before?

Anyway, u can always try, but i'm afraid once u tell her, it might make ur friendship awkward. If u can, try to find out if she has a guy she likes already, so u can stay friends first.

sulads · 01-05-2007, 09:20 PM

EyezChinky Wrote:We have been friends for the last year when we had several of the same classes, however, I think she only sees me as a friend who helps her out with homework and school stuff. I try to talk with her casually, but she doesn't seem like she has much to say sometimes. But we do talk a lot over AIM and at school. What can I do to make her hook up with me?

She also has other guys that flirt with her and she flirts back, but I'm not sure if she likes them or they like her.

What are some tips you can give me?

continue treating her the way you want to treat her, who knows one of this days she falls...
there's nothing wrong in trying....anyway, there are still alot of girls out there..just wait for yourself to get tired...it won't take so long...