Friend has relationship problems...need advice.

[Boredo]

He basically asked me..."Am I being wronged?". Here...I'll post his question from yahoo answers.

"I was gone the entire summer and I just got back...

I learned about a friend she had who has had a crush on her. He didn't respect our relationship, claiming that since we're far apart, he can do what he wants..

Eventually, he respected our relationship and was now merely looking to be good friends with her since she is the "realest girl I've met". However, I don't trust this guy yet as he seems to be around her a lot more...so I've been becoming paranoid and jealous about it. I trust her and she loves me, but I hate the fact how she lets him...walk all over her. One time, she went out with a group of guys and girls, and he ended up paying for her movie ticket, dinner, and arcade. Mind you, we are 18, but aside from the arcade, I found everything else...couple like. I tried telling her to respect my feelings, but she insists I don't trust her and I'm paranoid and jealous...I just want her to just lay off a bit. They can still hangout, but she feels like I want them to stop. This has really been killing me...it really has..I feel so much pain from this since it's been going on forever. We got into an argument last night about who's right and who's right. I don't want her to stop seeing her friend, I just want her to stop being so....couply with him. I mean, she always goes out to jog three times a week for an hour and he comes along. I don't mind that, but it's just these other things that bother me.

Advice?"

[Botod]

hey man, i dont have a gf yet but i think i know wat ur problem is...it looks like youre insecure to your relationship with your gf...a long distance relationship as you wrote...now let me see...
are you sure that you're her BF? it looks to me that your the other guy that you wrote about...
the way yo sounded in your letter, it seems that you're the 1 whose digging your own grave...

"I tried telling her to respect my feelings" this was what you wrote...

hey man im telling you, and i hate to say this, you're acting like a wussbag...
yeah you're being CLINGY...girls dont like that...chances are you might have killed that strong attraction in your gf to you by being to clingy, act like a man...dont cede your power to her...

I really wanna help you man...check the site that im going to send to you via e-mail for more advice from the expert.

Peace!!!!

[VIERAN]

It is really true that when you love someone your letting this someone to hurt you", i respect you, and yes your feelings is natural. i am not pushing you on something but i think you really should now who you are to her or what your stand to her. It is really bothering you because you've seen it that way, yes it is true that your too paranoid but try to calm down it wont give you better, just trust her love to you.

[Mavrek]

Where as I think she really loves you.She live far away this is creating problems for you.You should trust her.I am sure things will be fine soon.