Need guys perspective

[Guest]

I would like to describe a situation I found myself in last night, and see if I can get some guys' opinions on the whole thing.

I was out dancing with a couple of friends. My boyfriend stayed home because he was really tired. Was doing my thing on the dance floor when this guy started dancing next to me. I sort of acknowledged him, then went about my biz. Well, he started trying to dance with me. I just kept my distance and did my thing. When I sat down to take a break, he was dancing right in front of me, goofing off and smiling at me. He was being funny so I laughed along with him. Then I went back out on the floor again and he kept trying to dance with me, and introduced himself. Tried to start convo and such. Tried to touch my waist a couple times but I kept backing away.

At that point, even though I was enjoying the music in that room, I decided to go into another room with a different DJ. I thought it would be a good idea to remove myself from that sitch, so as not to give dude the wrong idea. But I guess I did give him the wrong idea, because a little while later he also came into the other room, and tried to dance with me again.

How could I have communicated to him better that I wasn't interested? I thought about saying, when he introduced himself, "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm _____ and before you get any ideas, I'm taken" but thought that was a little extreme! I mean, would I have sounded like a douche if I had said that?

What do you guys think?

[fake_innocent]

Usually it is better to turn the guy off the bat then give him anymore attempt to persuade you into doing anything you're not comfortable with.

If you don't want to sound mean, just say "I'm really sorry, but I have a boyfriend." and walk away. I've noticed that guys have a hard time understanding that kind of statement so you might need to say it more than twice. Usually for girls, you just say it once and they will back off..lol

[viewfinderlife]

I agree with fake_innocent. In general, when a girl goes to a club it's more to have fun. When a guy goes, it's to pick up a girl. Some guys are dumb and don't pick up on signals girls think are obvious, but to us can seem like you're being coy or playing hard to get. You have to communicate frankly and directly, otherwise it will be misinterpreted and prolong the unwanted attentions.

[Shiruku1]

Some guys just don't care about unspoken signals. They normally choose not to interpret them at all.
My advice is being straight forward and honest. If a guy approaches you again like that. Just tell him you have a boyfriend and you aren't interested.

It's true guys are there to pick someone up. So you should understand he didn't just want a friendly dance.

[jaeomin]

i can only say that actions speak louder than words.
so yes, be cautious.

[pwety]

Tell it straight

[MightyMe]

^ Yes tell it straight. Don't try to sugarcoat it beecause it adds to more confusion which you want to avoid.

[streets]

Should of told him straight up that you weren't interested. Plain and simple

[yupio]

By smiling n dancing with him, u are giving him a neutral to positive reaction of which he can proceed to get closer to u....if u don't want the wrong ideas...u need to give out a strong signal...men are kinda thick types lol;