Increasing Your Self-Esteem: Test
To understand how your lack of, or diminished, self-esteem is related to your life, please fill out the following questionnaire. Try to answer it as quickly as possible, without thinking too much about a particular question. Usually the first idea that enters your mind is the most correct one.
Be as honest and open with yourself as you possibly can, because no one else has to know your score. (If you try to lie to yourself, you have an even bigger problem!)
Remember, whatever you score, you can always be a
winner. Fortunately, now you can become an even
bigger winner by doing something about it.
After you finish the questionnaire, follow the directions on how to score it.
Self-Esteem Evaluation*
Do not be concerned about your Self-Esteem score, no matter how low it may be. For your Self-Esteem simply what it
is, the automatic product of your heritage and total life experience; and thus nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. It is important, however, that you understand each statement and be completely honest with yourself in order to obtain as valid a score as possible. Furthermore, do not confuse any concepts or ideals you may hold with how you actually function. For your beginning Self-Esteem Index (SEI) is an important reference point for gauging your process in building Self-Esteem. Remember that no matter how low your SEI may be, you can bring it up to any desire value by conscientious effort. You may also find comfort in the fact that lack of sound Self-Esteem is a universal problem that varies only in degree. It is, however, often well camouflaged by false fronts that only a trained observer can detect it.
Score as follows:
"0" If not true / "1" If somewhat true / "2" If largely true/ "3" If true
1. I usually feel inferior to others.
2. I normally feel warm and happy toward myself.
3. I often feel inadequate to handle new situations.
4. I usually feel warm and friendly toward all I contact.
5. I habitually condemn myself for my mistakes and shortcomings.
6. I am free of shame, blame, guilt, and remorse.
7. I have a driving need to prove my worth and excellence.
8. I have great enjoyment and zest for living.
9. I am much concerned about what other think and say of me.
10. I can let others be “wrong” without attempting to correct them.
11. I have an intense need for recognition and approval.
12. I am usually free of emotional turmoil, conflict, and frustration.
13. Losing normally causes me to feel resentful and “less than”.
14. I usually anticipate new endeavors with quiet confidence.
15. I am prone to condemn others and often wish them punished.
16. I normally do my own thinking and make my own decisions.
17. I often defer to others on account of their ability, wealth, or prestige
18. I willingly take responsibility for the consequences of my actions.
19. I am inclined to exaggerate and lie to maintain a desired image.
20. I am free to give precedence to my own needs and desires.
21. I tend to belittle my own talents, possessions, and achievements.
22. I normally speak up for my own opinions and convictions.
23. I habitually deny, alibi, justify or rationalize my mistakes and defeats.
24. I am usually poised and comfortable among strangers.
25. I am very often critical and belittling of others.
26. I am free to express love, anger, hostility, resentment, joy, etc.
27. I feel very vulnerable to others’ opinions, comments, and attitudes.
28. I rarely experience jealousy, envy, or suspicion.
29. I am a “professional people pleaser”.
30. I am not prejudiced toward racial, ethnic, or religious groups.
31. I am fearful of exposing my “real self”.
32. I am normally friendly, considerate, and generous with others.
33. I often blame others for my handicaps, problems, and mistakes.
34. I rarely feel uncomfortable, lonely, and isolated with alone.
35. I am a compulsive “perfectionist”.
36. I accept compliments and gifts without embarrassment or obligation.
37. I am often compulsive about eating, smoking, talking, or drinking.
38. I am appreciative of others’ achievement and ideas.
39. I often shun new endeavors because of fear of mistakes or failure.
40. I make and keep friend without exerting myself.
41. I am often embarrassed by the actions of my family or friends.
42. I readily admit my mistakes, shortcomings, and defeats.
43. I experience a strong need to defend my acts, opinions, and beliefs.
44. I take disagreement and refusal to defend my acts, opinions, and beliefs.
45. I have an intense need for confirmation and agreement.
46. I am eagerly open to new ideas and proposals.
47. I customarily judge my self-worth by personal comparison with others.
48. I am free to think any thoughts that come into my mind.
49. I frequently boast about myself, my possessions, and achievements.
50. I accept my own authority and do as I, myself, see fit.
To obtain your Self-Esteem Index: Add the individual scores of all
even numbered statements (i.e. 2,4,6,8,10...etc.). From this total subtract the sum of the individual scores of all
odd numbered statements (i.e. 1,3,5,7,9...etc.). This
net score is your
current Self-Esteem Index (SEI).
For example: If the sum of all individual scores of all even numbered statements is 37 and the sum of all the odd numbered statements is 62, your SEI is 37 - 62 or a
minus 25. The possible range of one's Self-Esteem Index is from -75 to +75.
Experiences shows that any score under +65 is handicapping; a score of 35 or less is seriously handicapping, and a zero or a minus score indicates a truly crippling lack of Self-Esteem.
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