Problem with friends...

[Boredo]

I went to a bday on Saturday...it was a sleep over, and I would consider it a normal party...but then things got horribly wrong...

After the host's parents went to bed, a friend of mine had brought some alcohol and cigarettes...him and a few others went outside...two of them ended up having a full cigarette while some of my other friends were drawn into peer pressure and tried a sip of beer.

It was bad enough there, but it got worse, when two of them went in the back to smoke weed..they come back inside and were so high...laughing at anything and everything...it really did piss me off...in fact, one of them had to come home...he had snuck out from his house and obviously didn't bring his car...most of us couldn't drive him back since we didn't have much gas left...i had enough to drive him back, but didn't feel like it cuz I felt he didn't deserve it...

I have so many ways of going about this...I'm gonna try to talk to them about it first...but some people tend to be igorant...the thought of telling their parents has come to my head, but I'm afraid that they might get too much in trouble...

What would you do?

[Anarchist]

this is a hard one. If it were me, I've been in the situation before, but I've never acted. Guess I was too afraid I would look uncool if i did.

How good of friends are you? If you are really good friends you probably could talk to them about it. If you aren't good friends, its harder.

Do what you are brave enough to do. Of course the right thing would be to tell someone, your friends will thank you later, but they will probably hate you for now.

Hope you make a good decision.

[IDavidISunshine]

well smoking weed and drinking among teenagers have become very popular now to a point where its almost extremely uncool to not do it. many people think "well i don't want to be cool if i have to drink or smoke" but mentally it takes control and they do it anyways. i've seen many friends mostly girls begin drinking right after they get home and some of my guy friends try to light up in the schools bathroom. its gone so far to where any of the hotspots like clubs, parties, and social areas become filled with these substances. i think telling the parents would be betrayal to them since they drink and smoke they most likely arent in the right state of mind. try talking to them seriously no jokes or anything, alone of course. tell them why alcohal/weed doesn't help them at all in any way.

-David

[AxiuM1485]

Just talk to them, that's about all you can do. If they dont listen its their life they are messing up. I'll admit i've done weed couple times. Its fun and all but i dont think i'll ever do it again. Drinking imo is fine as long as you know your limit and dont over do it. Just a little bit to get you buzz is fine in my book. As for smoking, if you want to do it its your lungs just dont do it in front of me. That's just how i see it.

[edison]

Depends how good of friends you are with them. Have you known them like since elementry school? I say talk to them with it but I don't think you can stop their actions. If they want to smoke weed and drink alcohol then let them be since it's their choice but make sure they don't peer pressure you to do it. Try and teach them the harms.

[carmen]

I know in school teachers always say "Tell an adult" etc. But in this case.. I wouldn't go straight to the teachers. Like all the other posters, how good are you and those guys friends? If you're pretty good friends you can be like 'Don't do that kind of sh*t.' but if your not good friends, I think you can just steer away from them. I know ignorance is like stupid, but the next thing you know boredo, you could get hurt. If last comes to last.. you may have to tell someone though

[IDavidISunshine]

funny today some of my friends were suspected of drinking and smoking weed. they got introuble because one of the girls that was supposed to come but got grounded said they were even though she wasn't there. overall it can get into an ugly situation like so. although some of the people there gained the trust of their parents for not smelling like alcohal or weed .

-David

[Boredo]

we are close friends, I've known all of them for over 5 years...I'll try talking to them personally...but it does suck if they don't listen...I honestly don't understand why some people are so mentally weak...

[WinterFrost]

geez that's a real bummer especially if you've known em for 5 years. Hopefully you'll figure out who and who isn't your true friend.

[jhoney]

seriously, ditch those friends. who needs friends like that? trust me, i know those kind of friends.