Another article that is responding to Rochelle's RE: 5 Reasons Asian Girls Like White Guys, this time by Dr. Asian Rake.

http://www.ampedasia.com/article/Physica...Asian-Men/

Hmm makes some valid points, but man he sure wrote a lot! If he wasn't talking about my article I probably wouldn't have read it all.

Expect a response later this week.

Makes a lot of good points. Asian men sometimes do need to get the idea that they can be as dominant as white men.

To expand on it the topic a bit, and hopefully add on, I honestly do not believe that not being big and masculine is the only limiting factor in most Asian-men dating women, period. Most Asian-American males are taught at a young age that we don't deserve happiness until we've meet all our of our expectations. Be it academics, financial, social, or family, many of my Asian brothers have this hammered into their brains a majority of their young lives. Perhaps a hundred years ago in the old country (hell, even in the states I'd wagered), this would've been no problem, since an arranged marriage by our parents or the local community would've guaranteed us at a wife as 'reward' for being diligent in meeting out expectations.

Unfortunately, society has evolved and we, the Asian-American males, are left in the dust. We're left with the idea that if we work hard and succeed financially as well as academically, women will eventually find their ways into our lives. Quite frankly, most Asian-American males feel that they don't deserve a woman until society gives them a thumbs up then hands them a 'trophy wife.'

Asian-American men are confused when it comes to dealing with women. We're utterly lost and unsure of what to do! We don't cling to the idea of dating an Asian girl because we find them more attractive, we do so because we feel they're safe and hoping that they'll even be understanding of our dilemma. Thus, the feeling of betrayal and resentment when we see them with men of non-Asian descent.

Rochelle's previous posts has proven that, though I'm sure she had the best of intentions, even Asian women view Asian men as an inferior product. And by no means, this is no fault of theirs, but ours and only we can change it!

Humiliation. Frustration. Embarrassment. Anger. Resentment. These emotions are part of the hazing process Asian men need to fight their way through if they're to show the world that we are just as good as men of any other race. We can not sit idly by and believe that women will come around eventually. We need to start taking the initiative on our own!

We don't need to be dominant as the 'white man.' There are plenty of dominant Asian figure heads out there. Asian men need to realize that Asian women have choices in who they date and we need to start showing them we ARE part of that roster. Or even better, that we, Asian men, can choose who we date!

We can still be Asian and still date women who'd love us for us! We don't need to emulate the white man or the black man! We just need to show them we're not asexual-career driven automatons.

*Hops down from his soapbox*

There are plenty of valid points in the article and it is well written. However, if you assume that most asians are ectomorphs, then by this nature, it is much harder for asians to gain pure body mass. Simply, our frames and body chemistry does not allow us to easily build and support muscle. Of course with hard work, a desirable body can be achieved. PLease realize that for all those skinny asians out there, it requires a lot of effort and time to achieve a nice muscular build like Bradd Pitt. Our advantage in holding low body fat isn't much of an advantage at all. Most people will agree that it is easier and faster to cut excess fat than to gain muscle mass (unless you are diagnosed with a disease like obesity).
Also, your argument about the asian water polo team, gymnastics, and weight lifting athletes do not hold much ground. These sports require much more muscular endurance, and the weight lifting medals were won in relatively low weights.

Okay, there isn't any Asian films that's as charismatic as Fight Club??

Um...yes there is....a lot (And I'm not talking about lame Jackie Chan movies). But of course, you'll probably just dismiss it as them "trying too hard".

Look, that Brad Pitt Tyler Durden guy....he was reading off a SCRIPT. That's what movies do, you read off scripts and memorize them and play that role. You think Brad Pitt is like what he is in Fight Club??? You think he just goes up there and acts however he wants when David Fincher says "action"??

You think Keifer Sutherland is like Jack Bauer in real life??? Well, then I don't know what to say about you.

Risingstar, although the lifting were won at low weights, it still compares body to weight lifting ratio.

The article is fantastic.
I think Bruce Lee is a sex symbol. Hot just hot. So I didn't agree with his article on that part.
I love Asian men's eyes. I like their lean figure. I love how they have more "fat" in their faces. I just love Asian men, the way they look, the way they carry themselves.
The eyes are so beautiful, the way it looks when they smile.
It's different to other men.
I'm an Asian girl born and bred in a Western culture, and yes I used to think Asian men were too effeminate, but my views started changing once I discovered my Asian pride. All of a sudden, other men didn't look so "hot" anymore, I'm scoping out Asian men everywhere I go. I watch them. Yeah I've got an Asian-fetish.
And so I disagree with that whole concept of "Masculinity = muscular, built, tall, big dominant" Masculinity to me is the gait, the way they talk, the mannerisms, the GENTLEMEN-NESS.

this article is nice...