Allright this is the scenario:

Thing is I used to date 2 girls and I'm now a junior, but I used to like this girl when I was in 8th grade through 10th grade, but I was so shy. The girl I like is in church, and the thing is well I'm afraid to talk to her and I know some of her friends, and because I never talked to her for 3 years. I guess she figured out I liked her after I gave up on her, I have a shy problem though. In school I act totally different than when I act in church, in school I can talk to girls (black dominated school so the girls are more rough on a little korean ~~) and the girl I like is korean also.

My problem is, even though I've recently broken up with 2 girls (white/black), now that I see her now I like her. And it's not a rebound kind of thing, I still liked her the way I liked her. Guys at my church said she looks kind of ugly, and someone I knew even had the nerve to say he'd date anyone else than date her. But I guess when I looked into her eyes, that's how I fell in love with her. I'm still shy around church but not as much, how can I try to approach her so we can have a decent conversation, and even step it up a notch?

Note: I'm not like a can't-talk-to-girls-for-crap type of guy, I can talk to girls just weird thing get shy at church, but in school I can talk to girls, make them laugh, etc. I need advice =/

It's hard to become less shy, my friend has this same problem. You just really need to seize opportunities to become less shy. For example, try to deal with a different group of people than you're ordinarily accustomed to. Try to be more social and then you'll eventually lose shyness and be able to talk easier with anyone.

Yea the best way to lose shyness is to put yourself in the same situations that make you shy. Through practice you'll be able to release your courageous lion that hides inside you I believe we have some topics that may help:

here's one by fake_innocent: http://www.ampedasia.com/forums/fake-inn...-8174.html

and an article "Building Confidence" by Steven Lin, which is featured on the homepage: http://www.ampedasia.com/article/Asian-M...onfidence/

It's a LOVE STORY, baby, just say YES!

well in my opinion...
wasn't the shy kind of guy
include yourself into things that you normally wouldn't do
EVEN IF YOU DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO DURING THAT MOMENT
ahaha XD
i guess i play for adventure

but if i look at it... the shyness hmm what could we do about that...
how fatal ( serious ) is your shyness
is it like... 8 or 10 (1-10 scale)
i'd probably ease up to an outgoing thing...
include yourself in school activities that have you talk alot infront of people
like right now, im part of " Asian Club " in my school, so i constantly have to talk to new faces about recruiting / school activities...
im starting our opener for tuesday's Open House, at night, so i have to introduce parents, support our club, and make us look good ( how nerve-wrecking )

but my point is,
slowly start to include yourself in outgoing areas
it'll show everyone that you're the sort of guy that wants to be noticed or the kind of person that is fun and you can count on, instead of lowering down to someone that is 50/50

now with the girl...
i'd probably ask her friends what she's into... music for example
look up some artists, check their songs...
if you like some, download em XD
ipod/zune/mp3 whatever
i play my music kinda high so people KNOW what im listening to...
-im not saying play your music high though-
but if you happen to like...
become physics buddies or lab buddies or something
open a topic with something like
" hey *wave* i like your hair "
something complimenting her?
could also try like...
" you know we've known eachother for awhile, but we've never really had the time to talk to eachother..."
personally, when im partnered up in any class, i try to get partnered with the person i least know,
so i can make a good impression that im not some low jerk that only gets to know people that i like, i can make the impression that i WANT to have as many friends as possible

talk to her, like you would talk to any of your friends... (in a self respecting way that is)

compliments are a plus...
music / movies / animes are good also, depending on the girl
oh another thing
FOOOOOOD
if she's korean, japanese, thai, viet, chinese, pinay(filipina), etc etc
bring up some good foods
my experience: Cantonese, Filipino, Japanese, Thai are the best... i wouldn't know what to recommend if my life depended on it! ahahaha XD

random topics are good +++

eheh, i doubt this would help but... its how i deal with things.
good luck

I get shy too. I think the only way to beat shyness is to have awkward moments with people. Remember to be calm and just act natural. Easier said than done but what can I say?

I am the shy type of person...whenever I reach certain points...I get red in the face like a giant tomato ><" but o well...it all lies within me.. I learn to stay strong and keep my head up high even when I'm shy...Only problems is that my shyness only leads me to embarrassment ><

find out what she likes, like hobby or anything then try to talk about it with her. usually people will be more comfortable talking about something they've interest in rather than themself. Good luck!!

in my opinion you are not shy at all.
you can interact with other people.friends,and you manage to get a girl/s
the thing is you only get shy on ONE GIRL...
are you intimidated kind of guy?

as kls said, if you're shy get over it. your slamming the door in your own face.

Get drunk lmao, hmmmm for me personally I goof around alot so I just say whatever whenever I guess you could just try to go straight forward maybe be like hey want to go hang out something? or watever