Okay so this woman who is in University, while I just graduated high school, she works at a cafe, we met when I came there with my father, and she remarked saying we looked alike, and she gave me a smile. I made a order, and I walked off saying I'll be back, I saw her when I came back trying to find me, and she said she noticed me listening to music, and asked me what I listen to. She came around from her workstation to walk over to me, and we talked a little bit, then I said goodbye and left.

Now when we met again, it started off slow, then we began to talk. When I first came there, it was in the morning with my father who does service for his church, and she asked my father if I helped, and he replied saying yes, and she smiled.

As I ordered something, I decided to just wait there, and my father left. She came over with cheesecake the manager gave to her, and we started sharing it. We began casual talk, we both found out we love poetry. We talked for a few hours, I feel we really connected, she laughed alot, and so did I at some embarassing experiences. She talked about where she came from, theories, race issues, and she asked alot about me. She wants to do open mic, and I said I'd help her, and she told me it'd be great if I could come tomorrow, and help her try to set it up.

The next day when I came to help her, we talked again. I had to leave earlier, but I felt alot better, knowing we'd see each other next week. I showed her some of my poetry, and she said its amazing.

I'm not sure if she is just being nice or being friendly since she is Christian. But a few signs were

1) She would flick or touch her hair a few times.
2) We made eye contact, not alot to where it is excessive, but just enough to meet each others eyes when talking.
3) We talked for more than two hours for the past 3 days we met.

My friends say maybe it is the start of a good friendship which equates into a relationship.

Umm...if I am getting this straight, you're a girl I suppose?
Because it seems like a half love story/ friendship build-up story...lol

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Nah, sorry I'm a guy ^_^. I know I explained it kind of weird, but I had to make sure details were in, cause I asked a few people, and they were saying what the hell the story was.

(08-06-2009 11:53 AM)fake_innocent Wrote:  Umm...if I am getting this straight, you're a girl I suppose?
Because it seems like a half love story/ friendship build-up story...lol

wow why'd you think that?

Anyways hmm I think that she may have some interest in you. I would say more than likely she does, but if you don't act upon it, then her interest might wane. So grasp the moment and tell her.

Please don't feel offended because based on this:

Guest Wrote:she works at a cafe, we met when I came there with my father, and she remarked saying we looked alike, and she gave me a smile.

I'd have thought you're both girls. But okay that explains...to answer your question. I believe the woman pose some interest in you, but I wouldn't be too rational. If you're proposing an interest in her, take it slow because you guys barely met and it still too soon to have make assumption yet.

Building a great friendship with each other usually is the best route because if you spoke too rationally thinking she is on to you; it would throw her off and possibly she don't want talk to you anymore..I am sure you wouldn't want to either...

Starting out slow doesn't hurt

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So best thing to do is just keep talking to her? For how long? And say for instance I want to ask her to a movie, or maybe get some coffee elsewhere? How could I propose that?

I'm not too good on relationships, cause the girls I've dated, lost interest in me because I was a nice guy. But this woman is different, whereas, she isn't a girl who is immature and will play mind games, and screw you over.

I've given her my number, although, I know yes, I should've asked for it.

But I'll keep being friends with her, and see where it goes then.

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I think even if she doesn't feel the same way for me, or if we dated and broke up, we'd probably be good friends still. I can tell both from our how friendship/budding hopeful relationship is growing stronger by each day. I'm not trying to be too eager or push the issue across, but I would like to date her. Although, the mere fact she's in University, and I just graduated might put some strain on both of us.

Although she complimented me before saying she thinks I'm more mature than most of my age, I think the age factor is kind of a problem. But I'll keep update, thanks to you two for advice. And also if her interest waned, then I wouldn't have wanted to date her anyways.

Regardless of age, it wouldn't matter. I mean, I've dated guys a year younger than I am. There is no problem with that. But if she is like 20 years older than you then that is a problem to my opinion...lol

Seeing that you want to take her out one day, I think you should still be friends for now and move up the ladders slowly...talking and making a friendship with each other builds up to liking because soon you guys will know each other and build trust on another; possibly even start somewhere.

The best bet is to talk to each other more, like go deeper into the talk. Get her to express what she likes to do, what she likes in a guy, hobbies, interest, past relationships, and etc.

If you really feel it the time to ask her, go for it. If she rejects, just learn to cope with it. Anyhow, good luck!

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She's definately into you but, still take it slow if you just come out and tell her she may like it, she may not.You've still only met on neutral ground but, ask her(him?) out for coffee, if she says yes, then yes, she likes you but if she makes up an excuse and doesn't give an alternate time/date then it's probably just a friendship.

Well status update, I've been going there alot, and I guess it is kind of smothering. There isn't any initial body contact, but we do enjoy talking to each other. Although we were doing something together, which involved touching each other hands, she seemed to enjoy it.

I talked about boyfriends, but she hasn't really gave any hints on about it.

I will probably see her tomorrow, since I'm getting along with the manager. Which also makes me kind of feel a little nervous.

I'm doing very nice things for the cafe because I'm very friendly with all of them, which leads me to thinking she thinks she might only agree to me asking her on a date/lunch/dinner/movie because I'm a nice friendly/sweet guy.

I guess I'll take it slow, I don't have too long, she has to go back to university soon this November, since she has accounting classes to take then.

(08-17-2009 06:30 AM)Angelasun Wrote:  She's definately into you but, still take it slow if you just come out and tell her she may like it, she may not.You've still only met on neutral ground but, ask her(him?) out for coffee, if she says yes, then yes, she likes you but if she makes up an excuse and doesn't give an alternate time/date then it's probably just a friendship.

I asked her out to coffee/lunch.

First I asked her what she doing this week, she said she had s busy schedule.

And she replied back if there were any fine lunch here that you could eat.

She then asked how we were gonna get there, and I said walking.

She said sure, and to drop by Thursday, since that day isn't as busy, and she'll try to fix her schedule.

What do you think? Interested, not interested?