I wonder if they are hiring for that job? Wouldn't be too bad i think. But that's not a good thing to do religiously. I will make it. just need people to spend time with to take my mind off from this.

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So tonight she started acting weird. wanting to hold my hand, wanting me to lay with her on the couch, and wanting me to shower with her. So I finally asked her why she is playing games, and she tells me that she misses me. So after a long conversation, i find out that she does not want to be married to me, but she wants me to be her roomate and live with her and travel with her. Wants me to be her best friend, but not be married. Something i'm not used to and not sure if I even want to. Wow this must be what women go through on a dailey basis. I feel like such a woman.

I don’t think so! You need to let her know that if she wants to end this relationship then that means it’s over.. Still staying together after your marriage is done will only cause more suffering between both of you especially if you’re going to be seeing other people. Your wife seems to only want you to fit her needs and doesn’t care about yours. Excuse me for being so blunt but to me your wife seems selfish and also very cruel for one bringing you down for your past relationship with someone who is deceased and now insisting that the two of you have a friends with benefits relationship after your marriage.. It just doesn’t make sense to me.

You need to stay away from her for good! She is not making you grow as a person, in fact, she has made your friends stay away from you... She is not making you smile anymore, in fact, she is making you weary and suspicious... If such feelings of contentment, trust and love is not present anymore, stay away from her... if possible move away from her. The more distance the better so that she couldn't make you guilty and give you all that emotional psychological crap!

Is this the real reason?..... i doubt it, why did she marry you in the first place. (i don't think she married you because she afraid to lose her job.) maybe theres a reason behind...

BTW, i saw your pic with your wife... both of you look happy. ^_^

So i now find out the friends with benefits means friends with whatever she wants to do, but no sex. She told me last night that she now is thinking we should stay together. She said you know me i just got mad and said things i didn't mean again. I told her i didn't think i could handle this anymore and maybe it's better that we seporate and then we can meet for dinner and to talk or movie on weekends or when we have spare time. I love her because i am married to her, but i don't feel that need to stay with her anymore.

Yea I think she's just using you for your money or to cure her loneliness for the moment and then go away to do her own thing. If you really feel like going away from her, then you should probably go. Maybe one day you'll both get back together once she's better, but for right now, you should go far away and be free from her.

regarding the prostitute job... I wouldn't recommend it either and not just for religious reasons, but also because probably all of your customers would be gay men... not that I know of it, but I don't really see women look for male prostitutes...

haha thanks guys. good advice. So yea after last night, it's really going to happen and because i told her how i feel she is being mean to me again like she normally does. I knew there was something going on.

I wouldn't even show her that I cared that she was upset. You should try to not acknowledged her selfishness because she seems to be feeding off of your pity for her.. I think you're showing her that you care too much and no matter how many times she leaves all she has to do is walk right back in that door and start anew. You’re giving her to much control in my opinion and she is taking advantage of your feelings. I hate to give advice to end a marriage because marriages are special but this one just seems to be heading in a bad direction.

So today the problems started. She is now acting very mean again and all the things she said i could have of ours she now wants split or sell them and split the money, or break it so no one can have it. Also I received a settlement from my ex passing away. the majority of it went to making my wife debt free. about 20K worth. i paid of my bike didn't owe much. and now have 20K left. I took our timeshare and paid it off, then took some to by a cheap car. Now there is about 12K left and she now wants all of that money for herself. yet she makes 3K a paycheck and i don't even have a job. She says she needs to teach me a lesson now since i'm leaving. The worst part is that all the money is in her bank and i'm not on the account. my life just got interesting.

ouch. First of all, I don't think any of that money belongs to her. It was for your ex-fiancee and you alone should keep it. Now if you stay married to your wife, then perhaps it would be right to share, but under the circumstances now, you should be able to keep all the money. But I'm no expert on that. You should consult a lawyer for help on your status on what things you actually owe your wife.