Is it true guys go for the looks and the body? Because for me I go for the heart and both

Not all guys. For me, I don't care as long as the person has a good personality and can love me back. Good looks are just the icing on the cake but it is not necessary.

I have to admit, most guys really care about looks, but the thing is, some guys are too ugly themselves and then they aim lower... This is from my personal experience.

Also a girl can look better and better to a guy after they've talked. I've had that experience.

This world we live in is very superficial (spelling?) Why dont people care more about personality and stuff and not what is outside. Would you rather be with the best looking person in the world but the person doesn't love you or be with an average looking person who loves and care about you.

lmFX Wrote:Also a girl can look better and better to a guy after they've talked. I've had that experience.

So true to me.
I chose looks, body doesnt really matter, also if she doesn't have a shitty personality.

Looks and the body is what attracts me to a woman at first but if she has a bad personality then it wouldn't go any further then just friends. I guess what a girl doesn't have in looks she'll have to compensate in personality.

thats what all guys say but in my seeing mostly all guys go for look not much go for the personaily because all good lookin guys thinks that if they look good they should go for girl who look as good as them. for me i use to go for guys who looks good but if they are too good lookin i get tired of them fast like two weeks and some guys who arent that good lookin they have a deep deep lookin(whats that word....i dont know how to say it in english but yeah) they turn out better because you find yourself fallin for them as time past thats why i dont judge at looks anymore.

I'm going to reverse it a little..

For a guy, I look at looks first. I think it's just how we're brought up and such. The better I know the guy.. it seems they become more attractive, so personality has a play on it. Obviously, if your in love with someone, you will think they're beautiful because you love them. When you see a person, you can't judge on personality, so you judge on looks first, and then once your drawn to someone, I believe you should get to know they're personality.

But then again, that's just my point of view ^_^

Honestly, I think we're all a bit shallow on the inside.

Generally, if the guy was decent looking, I'm down with that and if they have a great personality, that's perfect. However, I doubt I would ever get with someone who I thought was hideous. Even if they had a great personality, the only thing I would be able to give them is my friendship. Looks can be easily judged, and psychologically, it's a way that we've learned to analyze potential mates. I also think the media and society influences play a large role in this. For myself, I pay close attention to looks first and foremost because I think it still tells a great deal about the kind of person they are i.e. laid back, excessive on being impressive, etc... but I will admit that it's very limited.

With my boyfriend though, I pretty much shot for his personality. He was such a sweet, funny, and genuine person and before I knew it, I was head over heels, madly in love with him. With regards to his looks, at first I thought he was pretty attractive, but I knew that he was no Adonis. But now, I think he's the hottest male specimen on the planet---even hotter than Dante (if you haven't already noticed, I have an unhealthy obsession with Dante; DMC). I really could care less about what other men or other people say about him---hell, I'll defend him. He's just perfect for me and that's what counts.

By being with him and loving him for so long, I started to see so much beauty deep down inside of him and it radiates so much that I feel so nauseated by it---and loving it. I'm truly satisfied. Day by day, as my love grows for him, so does that beauty in him. I'm no model myself so I had limitations on my standards as well, but I'm happy with the fact that he loves me for who I am, both looks and personality.

Well, shall I be honest, or shall I say what seems morally right?

To be COMPLETELY honest, everyone is shallow to some degree when looking for someone else. What draws you in initially to a person? You can't get to know a person and their personality until after you've approached them. So you can't say, personality is the driving force initially, and that you don't care about looks. Its what lets you meet people in the first place. You go up to someone, because you find them atleast mildly attractive, not because you think they might be nice, or have a good sense of humor. So I dislike when people say that looks don't matter to them at all, because well, thats just a lie. =P Though perhaps this might not apply to high school aged people, and under. As in those environments, you tend to get to know people, regardless just from such constant exposure, but once you leave high school, its not really like that anymore. When you're sitting in college/university, its not like that cozy, get to know the names of everyone in your classes feeling anymore. Then past education, well, you aren't really meeting anyone you don't approach or they approach you.

Though, ofcourse personality plays a HUGE role after you take that initial step. You get infatuated with looks, you fall in love with someone's personality. Yep, I'm not a cynical person when it comes to the ideas of looks and personality, I'm actually more of a hopeless romantic. I'm just, realistic.... =D