fake_innocent's Guide for approaching women

[fake_innocent]

10 Tips for Approaching Women

Most guys get caught up in guessing what to say; here is what they really should do.

What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?

When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.

Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work because most of what you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the confidence you display when approaching her.

Here are 10 ways to intrigue her every time:

1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here.
“Make your comment immediate to the situation”
Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while you both are interacting with each other.

3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.

4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.

5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.

6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.

7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.

8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable too. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements that will help you communicate more easily with confidence.

9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like "
“I hope you saved some turkey for me”
I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.

10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.

The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.

Source: Yahoo!

[Lance]

Interesting list, although I think you'd get more replies if you actually wrote what the list was about in your title.

[Rondillo]

fake_innocent Wrote:6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.

Have you guys ever wondered how to keep eye contact without looking like a weirdo? Like do you have trouble just getting your two eyes to connect to hers? Because if you stare at one of her eyes (or even worse, look at both her eyes one by one, back and forth ) Well here's a tip I learned from a dating tips site that someone suggested long ago...

When trying to have a normal eyes-connecting look, you should look at the bridge of her knows in-between her eyes! Really! It looks as if you are looking at her two eyes!

This could also give those guys who are a bit low on confidence and have a hard time looking at a girls eyes before turning away and blushing. Or if the girl is a bit scary... this would make it seem like you're not afraid to look her in the eyes! hehe... sooner or later, if you practice this enough, you'd actually be looking at her eyes very casually and normally without having to focus on her nose bridge!

[ivory]

I agree with your list fake_innocent. If a guy will do all these things, he should have no problem getting our attention. So guys, start incorporating these tips. Who knows, you might met the girl of your dreams sooner than you expect.

[photons]

yeah interesting list.... but putting it to practice need a lot of time because even if u know what you are not suppose to do... u still end up doing it... at least a few from the above... becoming shameless would help... J/K heehee

[TN1]

Rondillo Wrote:

fake_innocent Wrote:6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.

Have you guys ever wondered how to keep eye contact without looking like a weirdo? Like do you have trouble just getting your two eyes to connect to hers? Because if you stare at one of her eyes (or even worse, look at both her eyes one by one, back and forth ) Well here's a tip I learned from a dating tips site that someone suggested long ago...

When trying to have a normal eyes-connecting look, you should look at the bridge of her knows in-between her eyes! Really! It looks as if you are looking at her two eyes!

This could also give those guys who are a bit low on confidence and have a hard time looking at a girls eyes before turning away and blushing. Or if the girl is a bit scary... this would make it seem like you're not afraid to look her in the eyes! hehe... sooner or later, if you practice this enough, you'd actually be looking at her eyes very casually and normally without having to focus on her nose bridge!

hmm looks like you already did your suggestion huh!

Nice tips for that Joanna!

[FiddyPence]

Personally only some things would make me interested. I hate eye contact to be honest, not cause I'm guilty of anything, just makes me feel akward.

I only make eye contact to freak people out when they piss me off. Heh. Plus when I keep eye contact naturally just to show I'm attentive I am told not to. I remember afew years ago I was "eye contacting" to show I was listening to lectures and the teacher stopped the lesson and said "What are you looking at?... Why are you looking at me?... Stop it you're freaking me out"

Hilarious. Personally, I think I'd give any guy a chance as long as he isn't too uptight, doesn't splurt his life story all in one (makes him seem kinda suspicious), knows how to shower and brush their teeth (-.- So many guys who have approached me stinkin' of cigs and beer, yeuk), pos body lang of course, and knows how to think about what he's saying (isn't too calculating so in the middle of being impulsive and a slug.Mebbe closer to impulsive.) ^^

I think the list is 50/50 for me but for a general lady I believe this one is awesome.

Ah sometimes I type so much for nothing but I've typed it now so I'm pressing the reply. ~.~

[Rondillo]

FiddyPence Wrote:I remember afew years ago I was "eye contacting" to show I was listening to lectures and the teacher stopped the lesson and said "What are you looking at?... Why are you looking at me?... Stop it you're freaking me out"

Haha I've never had that! I'm pretty sure most teachers would rather have students who give eye contact than those who stare blankly into space! I think that teacher you had was just a freak!

[4jpz]

Eye contacts have a lot of meanings, you know...
1) You're attentive... You're such a good listener that you're engrossed to the words...
2) You're spaced out... the eye contact is just an act. You're actually thinking of something else and just pulling a show that you're listening... lol...
3) You're trying to scared someone... just like what FiddyPence's teacher felt! lol... Why will the teacher freaked out with eye contact, anyways?!? My teachers would love it if we looked at them while lecturing!

[12tnguyen]

sounds good