I have a really annoying but probably life altering decision to make.
I currently studying at M University doing a Technology degree, 1st year it was ok but theres only 8 of us. And the university has completely no student life at all its horrible. Now this year my friends have shifted to A University. I'm considering of doing the same BUT my parents won't let me.

The thing is I'm not sure if this degree is for me and the uni student life sucks. All my friends are in A University and are doing conjoints with engineering or some smart degree.

Now my biggest problem is isolation and loneliness, all my friends has transferred and A University has a proper student life.

BUT the real question I keep asking myself, should I sacriface social for study? But I find that I can't JUST study, its just not me. I want a balance and at the current university Im in, I can't get that.

I have 2 options, stick to the current university and continue doing the degree but dread in no social OR

change to A University during semester 2 if i get real good grades.

Any suggestions as to what I should do??
Thanks in advance.

I kinda have the same problem lol. I'm thinking of moving schools because in my school (a catholic one) I cannot achieve the highest possible score for uni. Lol so I decided to move just for one year. Hopefully I can still keep in contact with them as much as possible. So in my opinion I think you should do whats best for your studies.

I learn it through the hard way Tai Chi Robot. Reason why? I pretty much screwed up my first year of university. I mean I had everything planned out already like ahead of time of what I wanted to do and what university I wanted to go to. The problem is, the university I wanted to go to is not the same university that my friends were going to. Another thing is that, the university I wanted to go had the program I wanted to pursue on while the other does not. I had to make a BIG decision whether to stay with my friends or pursue my own career. Mistakenly, I picked to stay with my friends and go to their university. I must admit it wasn't the right choice due to reason it pretty much screwed up my first year because of it.

My suggestion that I learned that I can advise you is that you shouldn't always put your friend priority first. I mean if they're truly your friend, wherever you go, they will still be on contact with you.

I absolutely agree with fake_innocent. I've finished college many years ago and it's always nice to be around your friends, but the fact is that after college you will lose contact with most of these friends anyway. You may have every intention of remaining in contact, but every person has their own life to lead and their own agenda (work, family, hobbies ect.). My advice is to go with the college that will give you the best possible education. Friends are everywhere. You just have to give the people around you a chance. Educational opportunities only happen once, and now is the time to take advantage of that. Most people do not get a second chance at education. You may be sad and longing for your friends at first. That's normal and perfectly understandable. They're only a phone call away. Make new friends where you are and concentrate on your studies. It may seem tough now, but you'll get through it...and you'll thank yourself 5 years from now.

Ooh I can help with this! If Joanna has her perspective of what could happen if you transferred to be with your friends, I can tell you what could happen if you don't!

All my friends from high school all went to different universities and I was all alone in mine. The first semester was a bit lonely even though I made a few new friends, but next semester, we got closer, I made some more friends and now its quite fun. I still keep in touch with my old friends, but I now consider my new friends as close as my old friends.

and if that place is as small as you say, you'll be able to find someone to spend time with, since that whole school is probably filled with lonely people

My point is, you can always find somebody to hang out with because there isn't a limit to how many friends you can have. Also, you'll find out that you won't be missing your old friends as much as before, since there is practically no reason for you all to lose contact with eachother, with the Internet and cellphones and etc.

Therefore, don't waste money and time over your loneliness. Because what would you rather endure? Hardship or loneliness?

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Choosing a college course and in what school can be very daunting to some especially if you are not really sure what you want and can be influenced by financial, location,parental support and peer factors. It is important that you know what you want considering all the factors.When you have made a decision,talk it over with your parents or financial backer. If things are ok,proceed.
If you are miserable with your present school, talk it over with your parents and lay down the reasons, not just the lack of social life. Decide on what's really the most important to you.GOODLUCK!

My biggest decision i had to make is to teach myself to love a Girl..

OK, so I decided to finish off this degree. I'll like to say thanks for the advise but now theres another problem.
Rondillo, you said whether to endure hardhsip or loneliness? I find myself having to battle both of them. Since all my friends have transferred and theres only 5 of us doing my course. Its getting damn lonely . I still keep in touch with my old friends and they also have their up and downs. I miss high school so much,lol. The people mainly and the free time to do nothing.
RIght now I feel like a complete loner and I never felt like this in my life. My current uni, its really hard to initiate a conversation with someone because they all seem busy. Its more like there no time or place where people simply gather and talk. I don't know maybe I'm expecting too much. And my lectures well, theres only the 5 of us.

So, any suggestion or advise??
Thanks in advance.

Are the classes harder? too? Ouch. Well with only 5 people in class, it should be easier to make friends. Are there any clubs or associations you can join? That's a really good way to make friends. Here's a tip though: the easiest guys to make friends with are those video games and chess guys. I joined a Gaming club and a Chess club and it wasn't hard at all to make friends. Well I'm a geek so I can find more in common with them lol. But it doesn't matter who you hang out with, as long as you both share the same interests. Therefore joining a club of your interest would help you find more people like you.

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Uhm. If your parents won't let you go for A University then you don't actually have an option aye? But really let's say you can choose where you go, everything in life has to balance. There's the principle of counteraction. I don't know if I'm saying that right, hehe. But my point is if you are not happy in the University you're in then how can you channel good ideas, good work into your work right? But of course, what if you really do well anyway? In the long run, you will end up not liking your profession because you didn't enjoy the process of achieving it. I should know because I took up nursing in this really high up University which means it was all study and there weren't much club activities happening within the Nursing Department. But the funny thing was I really enjoyed my uni life only because I had my friends there. Not that I was only going to uni for friends but yea it really helps to have that balance Everything in life is about balance except of course for GOD as we would need to give our all to HIM. That's a different story

Well simply put: you will need to stay in the uni that helps you balance yourself well and that means right amount of friends, right amount of pressure from study, right schedules, right course.. etc.. These will need to be looked into consideration before applying for a university. That's also the reason why like shopping stores, universities advertise their strongest points (what they can offer) to get more students with the same outlook, in.

Remember: Your current life is an end product of the choices you made yesterday, last week, last year. You get the idea

But since you're already in uni, why not make that decision to change if that's what's in your heart? I think you know what you really want. Sometimes though you just need confirmation from someone and I hope we are helping you with that. Go for what you really want. Pretty much like weddings, the first times are really enjoyable. University life is a huge part!! It'll be sad to look back and see you haven't enjoyed it. Just go for it! Discuss it well with your parents You'll do well I'm sure!!

Hope that helped tho! Sorry a bit too long