2) Crap Advice: Be Confident
If you’re on a date with a ball-buster, then you probably don’t need confidence. The advice I’m searching for is how to realize my confidence, leverage my confidence, and display my confidence.
As my friend, you want me to get some lovin’ right? Then help me find my “mojo.”
“Confidence” has many forms, facets, and misunderstandings. How do I know what is appropriate on a date, or even if I have any to show on a date?
Good advice needs to resonate with the receiver. Just telling me another “catch all” solution isn’t going to help me ask the girl from accounting class out on a date. Being insightful, asking questions, making an effort will help me understand my confidence and will add those extra inches to my mojo.
A man derives confidence in fields he’s comfortable with. So figure out where you are comfortable and how you can use that to convey confidence. Amped Asia already wrote this article in case you forgot.
For example, if I’m a jokester, what strengths can I demonstrate to display confidence? If I love to joke around, then you tell me to use that skill on a date. Make her laugh, create inside jokes, keep her smiling throughout the date; using my ability to create humorous situations will show her that I am a jokester yet confident in my own skin.
When humor is my strength, it’s easy for me to keep her giggling. If I’m going to you for dating advice, my hope is that you will know my strengths and point it out to me.
Displaying confidence is another tip a good friend should be telling me before a nervous date. There are a number of different techniques to show confidence; but it’ll mean nothing if I don’t know which areas I have confidence in.
For example, let’s say I am confident in my knowledge of spiny star fish because I have loved them since I was a kid. But how would I use that knowledge to show confidence. I mean c’mon…when did spiny star fish ever get a guy a second date?
But since you’re my homeboy, you’re going to help out and suggest how I can show her my interest in spiny star fishes. For example, take her to the aquarium on your first date and tell her a personal story of how you got into crustaceans.
A great friend can identify areas of confidence and help me create a fun dating experience.
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