Written by Vanae on November 12, 2008 Relationship coach Vanae covers the basics of how to ask someone you're interested in for a date.
Vanae Tran is a relationship coach who helps others to achieve and improve relationship with themselves and others. She writes for her blog which can be found at Vanae.com and makes videos for her Youtube channel, Vanae12.
You've got that hot female on your mind. Or the classmate you've been eyeing for some time. Or what about the woman you met online. Grab your mojo! Here's a simple guide to ask your crush out!...because how are you going to be in a good relationship, if you haven't gone out on a date yet?!
Let's change that baby! Even if you're shy, you can get over it by reading this first!
1) Build connection
Let him/her get to know your great personality so he/she can be drawn to you. You'll increase your chances once you have a connection.
2) Remember what she/he likes
Did she mention her favorite food? Or an activity he hasn't tried? Or music that they like? Be intuitive so you have date suggestions that he/she will be into.
3) Confidence
Know your strong qualities and know that you're a good catch.
4) Your approach
Depending where you met her/him…at school? at work? at the local starbucks? or online?
Classmate- talk in person
Met online- call or email
At her workplace- talk in person
5) Ice breaker then the question
Follow-up on a point of your previous conversation or give her a compliment. Then mention, something along the lines of, "Remember we talked about _______. Let's go to _____________ next week. What do you think about ___(suggest a day)." This shows that you are assertive and you're giving a suggestion, not a question.
6) Confirm the date
Call or email that person the day before to confirm pickup or meet-up location.
7) Remember!
Not every person is going to be your match, so don't take it personal if she/he is not up for the date. There's tons of great people out there for you. And if that person is a flake, then don't overthink it. Only invest your time in people who are mature and will appreciate you and your time!
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