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Do Asian Women Prefer White Men?

Steven Lin is an Asian dating consultant based in New York City. He is the author of the dating book, Advanced Asian.

It’s common to hear Asian men complain that Asian women prefer White men, or that certain girls only date White men. This topic has been debated on for years, and my article will not prove things one way or the other. However, I do have some logical arguments for why I believe that the vast majority of Asian women actually DO NOT prefer White men.

First I’ll say that there are going to be a percentage of women (not just Asian) that do prefer to date white men. But this also doesn’t mean that she will exclusively date White men. Being white to these women is just a preference. Just like for some men, they may have a preference for large breasts. But like a man who has a preference for large breasts, a woman can overlook this preference if other criteria are met. Also a great number of women who have exclusively dated White men just haven’t even met enough Asian men (there is only a 6% population of Asians in the USA after all). If you moved her to Asia, would she still have these preferences? It’s hard to tell.

The next thing I want to look at is the number of Asian women (who have had over three partners) that have exclusively dated White men. This percentage is incredibly low, and while I don’t have an exact percentage, I have talked to and discussed this issue with numerous Asian women across the United States and the world. Most Asian women who have dated White men have also dated an Asian man. This proves that you can’t simply say an Asian woman has a “preference” for a White man just because she is dating a White man.

Next, I’ll speak about the total amount of Asian women in the States who have dated a White male. This is a large percentage, but it reflects the fact that there are more White men in the states than Asian men. Similarly, you’d find that in Asia, there is an equally high percentage of White females who have immigrated there to be dating Asian men. This makes sense because Asian women have a bigger pool to choose from that are White, and therefore, for desirable Asian females, they will choose the most desirable mate.

To illustrate my last point. Let’s pretend that there is a pool of 100 men and 94 of these men are White (or if you prefer to be more similar to the demographics of the states, non-Asian). A mere 6 of these men are Asian. An Asian female must go into this pool to choose a mate. The chances are that the higher quality men are in the group of non-Asians. This is an illustration of the demographics of the United States. Only 6% of the population in the States is Asian. Sometimes a woman may have grown up in a town where there was only one or two other Asian families. The natural choice there, is to go with a White man or a man of another race.

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The conclusion is this. Humans are evolutionary creatures. We do mate based on certain desirable traits. It’s not that Asian men don’t have these traits. It’s just that there’s not enough of Asian men in the States. Therefore, it’s not that Asian women prefer White men, it’s just that they prefer to date the man with the better and more desirable traits.

Zhang Ziyi isn’t dating Vivi because he’s white. It’s because he has desirable traits. In this case, wealth.

So what does this mean for Asian men?

First of all, stop complaining. There are going to be Asian female, White male couples. Just like there will be some Asian male, White female couples (rising numbers in fact). By complaining, you are declaring yourself weaker or inferior to someone who is white. Stop this thinking.

You need to instead, decide how you can improve yourself. More game. More guts. More wealth even. You need to learn how to connect with a woman, to create deeper attraction. Instead, most of you are simply saying, “I Give Up! White guys are always going to be better than me.” Don’t do this. I want to recommend checking out my book, Advanced Asian, for some further help specifically targeted towards Asian men.

Of course, there is another argument in favor of the fact that Asian women prefer White men. It’s that overall, Asian men are just less desirable than other races. So this statement arguing that if there was a group of 100 men, 50 Asian men and 50 White men, the White men will have more desirable evolutionary traits. I will talk about this argument in my next segment, “Are Asian Men Less Desirable?”

And remember, if you’re an Asian man who needs help with dating and you still haven’t read my book, Advanced Asian, pick it up. It will absolutely transform your dating life or your money back.

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  • YourHusband

    “Of course, there is another argument in favor of the fact that Asian women prefer White men. It’s that overall, Asian men are just less desirable than other races. So this statement arguing that if there was a group of 100 men, 50 Asian men and 50 White men, the White men will have more desirable evolutionary traits. I will talk about this argument in my next segment, “Are Asian Men Less Desirable?””

    actually, asian men who are good looking are considered attractive to most non-asian men. this is especially true in the eyes of asian women, which is why the most attractive asian women generally end up with attractive asian men. keep in mind that the average man of any race isn’t particularly desirable or special. for example, most white men are actually pretty ugly, so that goes against the notion that they have more desirable traits. asian women would consider a good looking asian male as superior to all white men in the group.

    • YourHusband

      i meant superior to most non-asian men

  • heywillyouhuggleme

    he has a point though, most asian women aren’t exactly attractive or desirable themselves, and the few that are always go for asian men who also have those characteristics. and there certainly is a phenomenon of ugly asian women having low self-esteem and not getting respect or attention from men of their own race.

    and for the record, harry hogfart is an ugly virgin with a micropenis lol

    • Luong the Viet

      You said it, man! This silly white trash is angry that he still lives in his mom’s basement without any girlfriend because he’s so ugly and has a small white dick LOL!!!

      • HeGotGame

        This pertains to Vietnamese people, not asians. I have never met a more napoleon complex-ed, ignorant, egocentric male population than my last trip to little saigon, Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you people, relax.

        • Luong the Viet

          Hey stupid, why are you attacking me instead of the white trash loser who started this war? Ohh wait, I know. White racism and double standard. But I’m glad that white people are alarmed by our fierce resistance against aggression. That would teach some ignorant white trash a thing or two about messing with us Viets.

  • YourHusband

    and let me guess, those chinese singaporean girls are the ugly ones with low self-esteem about their asianess and couldn’t get a high quality singaporean guy?

  • HeyWife

    actually attractive asian women always for go asian men. chances are those women aren’t actually attractive. let’s do a test: do you think Lucy Liu is attractive? if you do, then you probably have bad taste in asian women, and those women that you saw are actually not attractive.

  • randomboy

    truth is, asian women are genetically wired to find good looking asian men more attractive than any white man. this is why you never see attractive asian women dating or married to white men, they all go for high quality asian men.

  • Luong the Viet

    LOL!!! I love it whenever I see jealous white trash with inferior complex do nothing but go around trolling and writing sh*t to compensate for their lack of worth in the world.

    I’m Vietnamese and I LOVE having sex with BEAUTIFUL SEXY WHITE GIRLS!!! By next year, I will marry a beautiful White girl with blonde hair and blue eyes. You can come to our wedding because I would love to see a white trash loser like you cry and drop dead out of frustration :-)

    white trash like you are seeing your world be STOLEN from every day. You can’t stop the trend leading to your white race’s extinction. I people like me are helping to accelerate it by f*cking your White girls :-D

    • Harry_Hogfart

      How does being kicked in the nads while a woman shouts “You to Tiny = Marriage

      • Luong the Viet

        My dick is 5.5 inches big which is PERFECT. Just ask your sisters, female cousins, etc…

        Also, stupid, a lady’s vagina is only 4.5 inches deep. So anything over 5.5 inches will only hurt her. I know you don’t know that, that’s why you’re still a LOSER VIRGIN living in your mom’s basement. LOL

        • Harry_Hogfart

          Ha ha again your bragging about having a tiny penis

          bizarre thing this is time stamped today but a verbatim to a PM you sent me a month ago

          • Luong the Viet

            5.5 inch is small? What do you want, a ten inch horse penis that you use to screw yourself? LOL

            white trash are the MOST DISGUSTING pieces of trash to walk the planet. Only white trashy men would make up most of the homos out there. Only white trashy men comprise most of the kidnappers and child molesters. You white men are DISGUSTING!!!

          • Luong the Viet

            Everywhere you look white people are being beaten left and right. Within 35 years, white people will LOSE America, the very country which their ancestors fought to build so hard LOL!!!

            I’m so happy to contribute to the destruction of the white race by marrying and making love to a White girl. I have been encouraging other Viet men to do the same and so far, I’m having good results :-D

          • Luong the Viet

            Sorry but my beautiful sexy WHITE GIRLS are waiting for me. I have to pay attention to them instead of pathetic white trash losers with no life, no girlfriends or no hope for either (like you).

            Bye bye now. And kiss your white trash bye bye as we Viet men continue to FUCK your beautiful WHITE GIRLS :-)

          • Harry_Hogfart

            God your stupid. Molesting with a Vienna Sausage does not mean fuck

          • Luong the Viet

            Man, you’re stupid. Impregnating your WHITE GIRLS to have future VIETNAMESE BABIES requires REAL MEN like us Viet men instead of white trash like you

          • Luong the Viet

            Kiss your white America GOOD-BYE as white people become minorities in their own country. Kiss your white race GOOD-BYE as WHITE GIRLS continue to be seduced by us VIETNAMESE MEN and kiss your WHITE GIRLS a finally GOOD-BYE as we score them in bed. Heee-hee-hee

          • Luong the Viet

            All you honky white trash crackers better stop having sex with farm animals, Fido and your moms. Of all the races out there, white trash are the SICKEST and FILTHIEST of them all!!! LOL


          • Luong the Viet

            100 years ago, the white people was at least 80% in america. Now, it’s around 60% and declining. White deaths EXCEED white births today. By 2043, white people will LOSE their majority status in America.

            Too bad you white trash can’t have sex with your White girls that’s why they have been leaving you! AHAHHAHAHAHA!!!

            Look who has the tiny dick now, white trash! Compared with my big Viet dick, your white dicks can’t compare AHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!

      • Luong the Viet

        Hey white trash, tell me why around 90% of the homos out there are WHITE MEN?!?! Ohh wait, I know, because they’re nothing but ugly LOSERS (like you) who can’t get a decent girl that’s why they have to turn to other white men! LOL!!!

        • Harry_Hogfart

          Actually as 99% of asian men don’t have the male hormones to grow an adult penis they are all born gay

          • Luong the Viet

            Sources? Sorry, your delusional head wrecked by meth drugs doesn’t count.

            If you look at all the homos out there, they are mostly wHITE MEN (like you). LOL

          • Luong the Viet

            Most of the homos out there are wHITE TRASHY MEN (like you). That’s why your beautiful sexy WHITE GIRLS want us heroic VIETNAMESE MEN to marry and love them. :-)

            My wedding day to a beautiful WHITE GIRL with long blonde hair, blue eyes and white skin is approaching. I will encourage MORE VIETNAMESE MEN to marry beautiful WHITE GIRLS to accelerate the destruction of the white race. You can kiss your pathetic white race goodbye as we Viet men will have LOTS of children with your White girls :-D

    • Harry_Hogfart

      Interesting in every post you do not mention having a relationship with a women or making love to a women all you talk about is scoring with girls, obviously you hope little girls will be confused by your toddler sized penis and fall for your molestation tricks

      The proper authorities have been informed and I’m sure you will have an interview with the one of the Bay Area sex crimes officers soon

      • Luong the Viet

        OHHH wow!!! I’m soooo scared!!! Buddy, you know how to read or does your inferior white trash inbred brain have a collective memory problem?

        In case you missed all my previous posts which stated that my wedding day with a beautiful WHITE lady is approaching, that’s your problem that you were born with white trash crossed eyes because your father banged his sister while drunk in your trailer.

        Hey, there’s a drug out there to help you increase your half inch white trash dick. You should buy it with your welfare check or fraudulent disability check. Too bad there’s no cure for your inferior white trash inbreeding AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!

      • Luong the Viet

        I see that you’re a teller of tall tales there my dear trailer resident friend. Do you know where God will send liars like you to after you die? Too bad Hell-bound trash like you will be nothing more than fuel for His angry hatred.


      • Luong the Viet

        Hey, loser white trash. All the angry Blacks and Mexicans are coming for you and your homo loser lovers. LOL!!!

        First Fuergeson, then Oakland, and now, your trailer park LOL!!!!

        Better repent and accept Him now before it’s too late, boy! Amen.

      • Luong the Viet

        Within TEN years, white Europeans will become minorities in Europe. Within 35 years, white americans will become MINORITIES in their OWN country! Within 100 years, white people will DISAPPEAR forever!!!

        But we Viets will continue to breed like crazy.

        So who has bigger dicks, my white trash friend with a pea-sized dick? HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA!!!

      • Luong the Viet

        I LOVE it whenever loser white trash dream of delusional fantasies while their loser white race are disappearing before their very eyes. Within 50 years, be ready to be my SLAVE, white boy with a half inch dick!!! AHAHHAHAHAHAHA!!

        You realize that the more trash you write, the more motivated we Viet men are to steal ALL your beautiful WHITE LADIES as our wives, don’t you? So please continue with your trash and before you know it, ALL your BEAUTIFUL WHITE LADIES will be in bed with their VIETNAMESE HUSBANDS!! AHAHAHAHHAHAA!!!

      • Luong the Viet


        After all, White ladies deserve Viet men who are a BILLION TIMES BETTER than loser white trash living in their trailer with mommy!!! AHAHAHAHAHHAA!!!!

      • JohnnyMangoes

        Hahahahaha, go outside your house and the most beautiful white women are having children with black men. It’s almost like half the children these days being born are mulattoes.

        • Harry_Hogfart

          The world needs mulattoes to run the shake machine at mcdonalds

    • soliel67

      Wow why so hateful? I am surprised to see an asian so angry at whites. Why?

      • Luong the Viet

        First off, I don’t hate White people, just the racist white trash like the idiot who wastes his time spewing racism and hatred all over the Internet. Second, we are Vietnamese, not your wimpy chinese, Filipinno or other cowardly Asian losers who quietly accept defeat. We Viets NEVER accept defeat EVER in our history.

        But I’m glad you and others noticed how strong and hateful my response to white trash racism is. And that’s what will await anyone who foolishly attacks us Viets. We are not wimpy cowards like chinese. We are Viets: peaceful but fierce protectors of justice.

  • Luong the Viet

    Look what’s happening across America as our Black brothers and sisters are rioting and looting you white trash! LOL!!!

    BURN BABY BURN!! Anyone who kills white trash is doing a good thing :-D

  • Luong the Viet

    white people are already minorities in CA. Soon, ALL of America will see white people being reduced down to the status of minority. I’m doing my part to hasten white people’s demise by marrying and loving a White girl in bed :-)

  • Luong the Viet

    Hey, what’s the matter, white trash loser? Why did you delete all your posts to me? Scared like the rest of you white trash losers who got your asses by kicked by us Viets as usual? LOL!!!

  • T

    I disagree that most people don’t see color in dating. I know white, black and indian girls who only want to date Asian men and I know Taiwanese, Korean and Chinese girls in Asia who only want to date white men. To be honest as someone of mixed Asian European heritage (yeah my moms asian and my dads white bla bla bla, typical story) I do find that non Asian girls who approach me have this obsession with Asian culture and men. They go to all the Asian boybands on tour and openly admit they prefer Asian men. While Asian girls tell me they prefer white men.

    Its ironic but white men prefer the delicate feminine features of Asian women and Asian women prefer the rugged masculine features of western men. Opposites truly do attract.

    I am half white but I do feel disconcerted that all the Asian women in my family are married to white men despite living in an Asian area and attending predominantly Asian universities. The Asian men are married to Asian or black women. And yeah I have found that being even half Asian is a complete turn off to a lot of girls. I think I am a good looking guy but even my less attractive Caucasian friends get more attention from girls.

    Living in England which does not have a large Asian population I do not blame people dating outside their race. I have dated a mixture of ethnicity’s. I know a British born Chinese girl who only wants to date Asian men and goes to Asian clubs to meet Asian men. Strangely nearly all the British born Chinese men are with Indian women and as far as my experience goes most of the girls who show interest in me are Indian.