Asian Rake: Required Reading List

Dr. Asian Rake is a dating consultant and a full-time professor at a top research university. Currently based in Singapore, he guides select clients to improve their lifestyles. To learn more about him and his services and products, visit www.asianrake.com.

Since the explosion of media coverage following the 2005 release of Neil Strauss’s New York Times bestseller, The Game, as well as the VH1 reality

show starring pickup artists Mystery and Matador, which has just finished its second season, the secret society of pickup artists has been thoroughly exposed

and forced into the mainstream in America.

Yet even with the plethora of resources the secret society produces–ebooks, paperbacks, audio courses, DVD series, television shows–I find it utterly

astounding that some adult American males still don’t know how to go about answering such simple questions as, “Should I pay for dinner?” or “Should I be her

friend first?”

I guess this is a good thing for those who have already taken advantage of the secret society’s knowledge. Less competition.

But, c’mon! If you haven’t yet given the resources of the attraction community a fair reading, do yourself a favor, and go check them out before you waste

your time reinventing the wheel.

Perhaps the sheer amount of information available is too overwhelming. This I understand. Every month, another breakthrough product or 10-DVD series is being

released. Who has that much time to go through everything?

Well, this is where one’s skills as a Ph.D. student, having learned to read a hundred books a month for one’s qualifying examinations, will certainly come in

handy. But seriously, it’s amazing how many guys have supposedly read the same pages and paragraphs I have, yet have only garnered a small fraction of the

rich knowledge contained therein. The erosion of critical reading and listening skills among the general population is disheartening, especially for a

university professor.

I could recommend the excellent and free video resources available on the website of The Social Man, as well as their upcoming The Social Man Method:
www.thesocialman.com I could tout the latest Venusian Arts ebook, Revelation, as perhaps the most comprehensive

general resource on attraction science currently available. I could suggest the Infield Insider monthly subscription DVD series featuring hours of infield

video footage and frame-by-frame analysis by Mehow and his guest pickup artist. Those are all outstanding resources among the hundreds out there.

But Revelation tops out at a very dense 322 pages. If a guy didn’t get through his first-year philosophy textbook, he probably won’t get through this one. If

he doesn’t already have considerable field experience, he will likely be unable to appreciate the subtleties revealed in the footage in the Infield Insider,

even after it’s broken down for him. A lot of it will go over his head. There is a reason most guys just “don’t get it”: They are blind to social dynamics,

and until they train their instincts and develop their emotional and social intelligence, they will have a very hard time discerning what’s going on.

So instead of applying the mental discipline to go through such material, our hapless fellow turns to the vapid Doc Love columns of magazines and periodicals

or the “pickup-lite” blogs dispensing feel-good dating advice.

Don’t despair. There are resources out there that are suitable for beginners and those who just want to get their feet wet.

A good starting point before turning to any of the more advanced resources is my Dating 101 audio course available on my website: http://www.doctorasianrake.com/?page_id=646 It has a 100% no questions asked two-month refund policy,

so you have absolutely nothing to lose.

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Perhaps it is gauche to recommend one’s own work, so I’ll stop there.

For those who want an even broader, more general introduction to the social arts, then look into the foundational books that formed the inspiration for

almost all the advancements in the attraction arts community for the past ten years.

The Top Ten

First Category: Required Reading

1. The first book in this category is Dale Carnegie’s classic, How to Win Friends and Influence People. This was originally published in 1937. Almost every social skills

book afterwards is a derivative of some sort. The guys in the seduction community who don’t see the value of this book are usually the really creepy ones

with major psychological problems. No, I don’t mean you.

The insights contained in this book are so foundational that if you can’t apply these, you have no business looking into the headier stuff. For instance,

Carnegie’s principle, “You Can’t Win an Argument,” was huge for me, an aspiring philosopher. I still to this day have lawyer and engineer clients who start

intellectual debates with women and me, even in bars. They don’t realize how important it is to give up their egoistic need to be right or to have everyone

know that they are right. It’s far more attractive to be unreactive, internally referenced, and completely confident in your own judgment, even if the

majority disagrees with you.

Carnegie’s frequent admonition to “Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,” is what drives Qualification as an attraction technique. His

humorous, “Give a Dog a Good Name,” explains much of the effectiveness of Intention Mapping. Many of his other principles illustrate “Alpha Nice” strategies.

If you want to learn social circle game and entourage game, the teachings in this book are necessary to master. You will need to learn how to befriend not

just random hot girls, but more importantly, alpha males, high status people, and well-connected men and women. And if you can’t even apply Carnegie’s

principles, you have no business running more advanced game.

A good supplement to Carnegie, which avoids the archaic prose and endless examples, is Leil Lowndes’s How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships.

While Lowndes’s tips are fantastic, they are temporally parochial and will go out of date and lose their effectiveness if they haven’t already. That’s what

separates classics that stand the test of time like Carnegie’s.

2. This is probably a big surprise to newbies, but it’s no secret to the insider circle that Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich is a favorite among the top social artists and

inspired a lot of its breakthroughs in inner game. Like Carnegie’s, this is another 1937 classic that has stood the test of time. His chapters on sex

transmutation and auto-suggestion are must-reads for any man aspiring to mastery in a specialized field. My own program of affirmations and visualizations

were first inspired by Hill’s recommendations. I still get a lot of inquiries about what I do for affirmations and visualizations. Do yourself a favor. Get

this little book. Read it several times, a chapter a day until the lessons really sink in. Oh yeah, and you might get rich too!

3. For all the attention that Strauss’s The Game has brought to the community, his first book on the secret society is best taken as an entertaining read,

NOT as a manual or blueprint for getting better with girls.

His more recent Rules of the Game,

however, is a good how-to guide and presents a well-balanced perspective on attraction, with a proper amount of attention paid to lifestyle and identity. Out

of all the attraction manuals you would find in your local bookstore, this is by far your best bet.

And it’s a good introduction to the most popular style of social arts and perhaps the method best suited to absolute beginners: Indirect game using scripted

routines.

4. The most thorough step-by-step guide to the seductive arts is still Robert Greene’s The Art of Seduction. Perhaps it’s biggest fault is that it is too comprehensive.

Most lair guys don’t have the patience, motivation, or critical reading facility to get through the whole thing.

Greene draws on a lot of historical case studies, which I consider a real strength. If there is anything to the insights of the attraction community, then

they should be found among the writings of exemplars in times past.

His character portraits are the most valuable part of the book. The true masters have thought long and hard about the different styles of social artistry,

and many of them track the character types Greene lays out. It’s helped guide my own decisions about which attraction community teachings to adopt and which

to lay aside.

His detailed description of the seductive process is skewed to indirect methods, but he also takes into account the strengths of the direct approach. The

process he lays out is a meticulous breakdown of the steps in a typical seduction.

As with all the books in this must-read section, this book should be slowly absorbed and frequently re-read. A chapter or two a day is ideal.

5. This fifth book is my new Bible. I’ve been reading at least a chapter a day for over a year. Well, okay, I’ve lapsed recently, but I’m getting back to it.

I credit this book for the most profound changes in my mindset toward my career, relationships, and my life as a whole. It’s given me the courage to make the

hardest decisions I’ve ever faced.

David Deida’s The Way of the Superior Man is one of those books

that will probably go over the heads of most guys starting out. But once you get to an intermediate level, this must-read will become the single most

important book you could own. It holds the keys to real mastery. Incidentally, understanding of the teachings in this book can also be used to gauge a man’s

current level of development.

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Asian Rake: Required Reading List

Second Category: Highly Recommended

1. As a scientific account of what’s behind social dynamics and why some people are more attuned to social dynamics, this is likely the most accessible book

available. Daniel Goleman’s Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships shows how advances in neuroscience, psychology, and various other

fields have already unearthed a lot of the reasons for why community material actually works. http://www.amazon.com/Social-Intelligence-Science-Human-

Relationships/dp/055338449X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1231361389&sr=1-1 Unlike the community ebooks, Goleman does not depend on facile appeals to

evolutionary accounts. He doesn’t have to. Goleman’s classic Emotional Intelligence is also quite good, though not as directly applicable to social dynamics

as his more recent work.

2. Cited repeatedly in Mystery’s Venusian Arts Handbook back in 2004, Robert Cialdini’s Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion has spawned a whole industry.

This has become a

classic in the attraction community. Cialdini is currently a Distinguished Graduate Research Professor at Arizona State University.

The six principles he elucidates in his book are all major concepts in the social arts: Reciprocation, Commitment and Consistency, Social Proof, Liking,

Authority, and Scarcity. His book not only helped advance thinking in social dynamics, it also changed the way I saw myself, my relationships, my career, and

my research in such fields as philosophy and religious studies.

3. Like Cialdini, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (pronounced like “chick sent me high”) is another renowned professor who has turned his research into an entire

industry. His Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience explains what is behind the whole “being in state” teaching, which has become a hobby-horse of the

boys at Real Social Dynamics though curiously, they make no mention of Csikszentmihalyi’s work. I read about his work in a philosophy class before encountering it in some of David

DeAngelo’s DVD products.

This will help you understand why “being in state” is so powerful and the prime driver behind natural game, which has recently become such a contested term

in the community, with Real Social Dynamics, PUA Training, Charisma Arts, and just about everyone else trying to lay claim to it, bereaving it of any

significant meaning. Most have lost sight of the fact that Vin DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake were the first to come out with “natural game.” Csikszentmihalyi

does a better job of explaining “being in state” better than neuro-linguistic programming.

But more importantly, Flow will explain how the experts achieve flow on a consistent basis, as well as the personality types of those most prone to flow

experiences. He also draws on literature and data from a wide variety of cultures, periods, and societies, including Daoist and Buddhist teachings.

If you can maximize your flow experiences, you will be a happier, more successful, and more fulfilled human being. What better reason do you need to pick

this up?

Interestingly, his son is a well-established scholar of early Chinese philosophy.

4. This list would be incomplete without some mention of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). The best general introduction I’ve found is Introducing NLP:

Psychological Skills for Understanding and Influencing People by Joseph O’Connor and John Seymour. The writing can be dry and pedantic in places, but the knowledge is

invaluable. If you’re interested in NLP, save a couple thousand dollars and take a course in it.

I prefer the more accessible NLP of Anthony Robbins. His Ultimate Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement helped take my inner game to the next level.

You might also want to

check out his Awaken the Giant Within, which covers the same material but in a different format.

5. And finally, I would be remiss if I left out some literature on evolutionary accounts of sex and relationships. Most attraction community ebooks appeal to

this exclusively for their academic understanding of social dynamics. I find this one-sidedness disappointing. As bemoaned by many academics, evolutionary

accounts are too ad hoc. You can pretty much come up with an evolutionary explanation for almost any perspective on social phenomena. Despite this, it is

good to know the research. The best book on this subject is Robin Baker’s Sperm Wars: Infidelity, Sexual Conflict and Other Bedroom Battles.

The Red Queen: Sex and the

Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley is also quite good.

So there you have it. The Top Ten books that will change your life. I recommend you go through them in the order I’ve laid out. The first five deserve slow

and steady study, as well as repeated readings.

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Play on, The Asian Rake.

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