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Asian Men: Physical Flirting with Asian Women
Written by Asian Rake on October 21, 2008
Of course, if you are obviously a foreigner, she may make allowances. This is often why foreigners do so well in Asia with the "local" girls who have little experience with "Western" men. The "local" girls-next-door don't know how to handle the situation. They may feel uncomfortable but they figure the Westerner doesn't know the local customs, and they don't want to be rude. Of course, this won't work with the more elite girls or those girls who are very confident and self-assured (Note: For more on this topic, see my article on "Whether it is Easier for Foreign Men in Asia" under the Best of the Blog section on my website: www.asianrake.com).
So how much should you touch a socially conservative Asian girl when you first meet her in public?
In nightclubs, bars, or lounges, you can often touch more upon meeting. It's good to give her a light touch as a reward whenever she says something funny or tries to impress you.
Start slow and light. You can use light taps on the outside elbow. If you are sitting, you can use light taps on the outside of her thigh.
Of course, any kind of playful touching is fine. High-fives, playful punching or slapping on the shoulder, or pretty much anything you would do with your younger sister is generally acceptable.
Also, any kind of incidental touching is good. This is physical contact that you are forced to have because of your environment or activity. For example, if you are sitting on a crowded couch or standing in a crowded bar or subway car. Look out for opportunities to maximize incidental physical contact.
Just lay off any overtly sexual touching until you are in private.
If you are going to go for a kiss, make sure she at least feels isolated from the public.
Better yet, exercise restraint, and wait until you are in a private location before taking things further.
It should go without saying that there are extremes of behavior in socially conservative societies. You will find the Asian club girl in very socially conservative societies who is looking and willing to do crazy things that night with you right there in front of everyone. This is the nature of the social barriers that are built into these conservative societies. You may be the lucky recipient of a girl's subversive personality expressing itself that night. Or, for those more advanced social artists, you can consciously make this social barrier work for you. But that's for a future post.
During the day, when interacting with a socially conservative Asian girl, especially if you are in a socially conservative Asian setting, keep your hands to yourself.
You can and should stand inside the polite zone, which in East Asia is usually an arm's length away from the body, but there is no need to touch her beyond incidental physical contact.
And you will find that you can build sexual tension more effectively using words, tonality, and eye contact. Build the sexual anticipation until you can finally express yourselves physically in private. This is much more powerful.
I've seen so many Western men get rejected right away because they are too aggressive physically and prematurely advance.
The brazenly physical touch you may "get away with" in public will ensure that you will get nothing in private.
Play smart. Hold back. Build anticipation with your words, tonality, and eye contact.
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