Asian Men: 5 Tips to Date White Women

It is really hard for some Asian guys to grasp the idea that they too can date a woman of another race, whether it be Caucasian, Black, or Latina. I’ve had friends come to me saying things like, “That girl is hot. Too bad I’ll never be able to date her. She’s white.” This seems to be common amongst Asian guys. However, I’m here to tell you that any man, Asian, Black, White, can attract ANY race of woman.

That’s because attraction isn’t based on race at all. I’m an Asian man who’s dated White, Asian, Latina, and Black women. I’ve dated women that have never been attracted to Asian men at all.

It’s really not all that hard for Asian men to get with White women. It’s just that we’re usually always around Asian girls and we’re so comfortable with Asians, that sometimes it seems like it might be too much of a hassle to try and get with a White girl. This is something that I’ve seen even with Asian guys that are good with women; they stick to Asian girls.

Asian girls are smoking hot, but sometimes it’s also nice to get a little variety. I’m not one to stereotype, but sometimes the upper body on an Asian girl just doesn’t cut it for me. And some culture never hurt anybody right?

So how do we get you, an Asian man who has never been with a White girl, into the right frame of mind so that you can start dating and sleeping with White girls?

Here are my five tips to help you get started dating the White/Latina/Black girls of your dreams!

Go to Places Where White Women WILL be! And Meet them

When I started trying to learn seduction skills, I realized that I love the beauty of White girls, but I was still only getting numbers and dates from Asian girls. Why was that? I realized that I was TOO scared to go to places where I was the only Asian guy and everyone else was White. So because of that, I would always try to meet girls in Asian clubs. Why do that? Start going to clubs where there is a sizeable White (or whatever race you like) population, and get the balls to go up to them and strike up conversation.

Make non-Asian friends

Is it hard for you to hang out with non-Asians? It shouldn’t be. All through High School and College I had hung out with a predominantly Asian group of people because my schools had a ton of Asians. Once I got out of college, however, most of the people I met were White. Thus, I made a lot of White friends and I realized that they weren’t so different from my Asian friends. Two of my wingmen are white also. But why make non-Asian friends? Simple. Because they are going to lead you to meet non-Asian WOMEN. That’s the first step. Make it easy to meet White girls and you’re going to have yourself some new relationships with White girls.

Pull your White girl into the Asian world

The Asian culture is absolutely fascinating. Although we hear the term “Yellow Fever” mostly about White guys, the same term can apply to White women. Most women of all races absolutely LOVE to learn about different cultures, and if you happen to meet one that is narrow minded, then forget about her. That’s not someone you want to give your time to anyways. When you meet this White woman of your dreams, expose her to your culture. Take her out to an Asian restaurant. Teach her how to use chopsticks. If you’re just meeting her, talk to her about something interesting that relates to you being Asian. However, DON’T overdo this because if you start just talking about Anime or Korean soap operas every minute of your conversation, she is not going to be very receptive, especially if she herself doesn’t like Anime or Korean soap operas.

Show her that you’re no different from any other guy

The problem with a lot of Asian men is that they fulfill the stereotypical Asian role when they meet women. What I mean by that is they portray themselves as effeminate and weak or nerdy and anti-social. Present to the White girl that you are absolutely NOT like any of those stereotypes. You’re cool, you’re confident, and you know how to socialize. You’re no different than that White guy she used to date.

Take time to learn dating skills

Yes dating can be learned. This is probably the MOST important tip out of all of these tips because if you don’t know how to impress women the right way, then you’re not going to have as much success as you could. You’re going to need a foundation of basic social dating skills. I can’t teach it all to you in this article, but you CAN learn from my dating e-book, The Advanced Asian. Check out more information about my book at my website, And remember to subscribe to my mailing list for your free report entitled Asian Men: Advance Your Dating Life.

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My name is Steven Lin and I'm a dating consultant and columnist. I created "Advanced Asian" -- a dating and seduction guide aimed at Asian men.

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  • burping

    White women only care about fashion and because of the media run by greedy jews, there aren’t any good looking asian men in the media.  But asian men have hope, all they need is an internet connection and lots of paper towls.

  • Alexandra

    Great article. It is funny as it is just as hard the other way around. I am a white girl who would love to date an Asian guy but in my whole 35 years of life I have never once been chatted up by one! Poor me! I have been told they would not be interested in me as they stick with their own race (that is a lot of very pretty competition hahaha!). The only dating sites I have ever found seem to be for white men seeking Asian girls. Oh well I can dream! ;)

    • burping

      Also, you should pretend/dream that Ralph Macchio in Karate Kid movies is really this awkward asian guy instead of an  awkward Italian-American guy.  Because of the media run by Jewish business people, Ralph Macchio is the closest mainstream asian stand-in for asian-american representation.  By that I mean, mainstream east asian martial art flicks have similar characters and themes like the wise old man who helps an impatient struggling young person become a intelligent, confident fighter.  So, in other words, Karate Kid is really an old variant of Hong Kong martial art films similar to 70s Jackie Chan flicks. 

    • burping

      Another thing, white women in general are not attracted to asian men so you might want to consider approaching the asian guy you’re interested in first rather than the other way and the reason is many asian men are shy and very cautious these days for fear of rejection.

      • Nicole H

        “white women in general are not attracted to asian men” — Umm… are you sure about that? Lol. I wouldn’t even say that’s the status quo.

        • burping

          Sorry, but most non asian women (particularly white women) in general are not attracted to asian men for fear of discrimination or racism by their friends, families, and society. There is still a taboo against it, sort of like there used to be a taboo against multiculturalism. This goes both ways, asian families don’t accept a non asian, and certainly non asian families don’t want anything to do with an asian (except for asian women). Also, if you look at mainstream media run by white and jewish people today, the main characters are about white people only even though a third of this country are minorities. Attractive asian men don’t exist in the U.S. in the media. There was a time where you did see more asian men in interracial movie roles with non asian women in the 80’s and 90’s like Jackie Chan, Brandon Lee, Russell Wong, Ernie Reyes Jr, Jason Scott Lee, and even (Mr. Miyagi) Pat Morita from Karate Kid had more of a multi-dimensional personality all thanks to Fred Weintraub who knew Bruce Lee. By the way I was being sarcastic about my first post.

    • Guest

      Not true All asian men do not stick to their own race.  Cultural differences may mean that they go about starting a date differently or they may be shy. If there is someone you’re interested in, maybe you might get the ball rolling because waiting for him to do it doesn’t seem to be working.

  • Jessika

    I’m white and would LOVE an Asian guy! :D but I am always so scared to talk to them. I always feel like they think white women are ugly because Asian girls are so cute stay younger looking longer. White women can too…if we stay out of the sun…LOL.

    • Kermit

      Well it’s been said sometimes your attitude is more attractive than the looks, so if you’re just average looking but with great personality…who cares.

    • Kermit

      btw, theres no guy (regardless of his race) would turn down a white woman.

    • stormking

      where r u from jessika?

    • Nicole H

      Jessika, you are so right! I’m a white woman, and I feel that sometimes Asian men don’t approach us because we don’t compare to the standard of Asian femininity. (Even though beauty is subjective, it still seems this way to me.) There have been at least a handful of Asian classmates throughout high school and college who were major crushes of mine, but I was too shy to approach them. Maybe vice versa as well, but who knows? However, I finally found my Asian man when both of us worked up the nerve to talk to each other. We have been together for five years. (Just to put it out there, I’m not Asian crazy. I’ve had boyfriends of many different races, but he is definitely the best.)

      • burping

        Wow, that’s very interesting. You say you both were nervous and shy to approach each other, but that’s what I’m talking about. There is still a sense in the U.S. that asian man and a non asian woman (especially white women because they are considered the forbidden fruit) are still not allowed because for one, we live by the media (which is run by bunch of white and jewish people) and two…(sigh) majority of interracial couples rarely involve asian men because people tend to be afraid to make the first move since you don’t see those couples as much.

    • bruce

      this happened.

      former puahate member

    • Carl

      Asian here, one reason is we asians think we’re out of your league because you white gals are beautiful. But I do like white. and don’t be scared to talk to us. We dont bite. Wahaha!
      <3 :)

  • stormking

    im asian but not mixed blood..i would love to meet a few western it white/black/latina.. actually, i’d love to meet guys and girls of that origin, and just hang out! but i have no idea where or how to meet them… =(

  • Ruwan Dilhan Gunasekera

    A You Asian guys are BOTH the most PATHETIC race with your INFERIORTY COMPLEX

    trying to score with white women !

    Pathetic bec. you guys know your’ll have feminine features and the smallest dongs, so you think by having a white or non asian GF this stigma would get erased ! Unfortunately it makes it even clearer that you guys have an Inferirty complex and that geting a white girl somehow makes you a man !

    That NEVER happened with Real/ Straight women or straight women of any other non Asian race going for Asians. The only women who will touch you are Bisexual white and other races of Bi women !

    Real women gor for Real men, and you guys are the last by a lon shot among all the major races of men.

    You can’t erase feminine features and small dicks off yourselves ! So your inferiorty complex wants to play with the big boys of other races and real white and other women but you will ALWAYS be little dongs with Feminine features !

    case in point, some of you asians have made a string of porn with sian men & white women called She Loves Asian Cock. But even their, your pathetic inferiorty about penis size is actually highlighted bec. you get these white porn whores to say ‘I love Asian cock’ !
    Bec. no real women look at you nor for that matter any non asian women, you guys have to blow your own trumpets bec. no non asian women will naturally do it for you ! Only white porn whores who are PAID to do it ! PATHETIC ASIAN MALES !!!!!!

    • Alpha Asian

      Fool please, the Asian continent is huge and the groups of people who are “Asian” is extremely diverse. An Asian man with a strong deep voice, broad physique, “A” type personality, and intelligence will swoon any woman of any race. There are more of us out there than you think. Just because the media has hyped the slim Chinese, Korean gay boy look doesn’t mean we’re all the same. Stay ignorant my friend, and let us eventually rule the world.

    • john

      I guess you bash on other races because you yourself is insecure with your own self. I have dated plenty of white women and other races. Sure most asian men seem to be a bit small and scrawny….but that dont mean the alpha males dont exist. Honestly, im thinking you are asian yourself. Hiding behind a keulyboard and macho l…but in real life…you probably have a vagina and puss out at a corner at parties. I say that eith confidence because i actually use to do the same thing before…till i realized its sad and stupid. Insecurity equals haters. I wish you luck and learn on how to improve yourself instead of talking smack online.

    • Nicole H

      Ruwan is just mad because he doesn’t get any from ANYBODY, or so he leads us to assume. It’s ironic how you capitalize ‘inferiority complex’ when that label applies so well to you. Let me offer you some internet Valium. It works well for temper tantrums.

      You see, white women like me would much rather be with a self-respecting, non-asshole Asian man than a miserable white ignoramus who comes here to bash other races. You sound like a whiny little kid, especially when you say “big boys,” like you’re a toddler stuck in diapers and you just can’t wait to graduate to little boy briefs. Notice how I refer to Asian males as men. Now, of course there are people of all races who would behave like a monkey (you), but bear with me.

      All the things you declare Asian men “lack” are simply what you know deep down are your own insecurities. You just won’t face them head on, so you feel compelled to make true men look less masculine. That’s what makes you feel better at the end of the day. It’s okay if your penis is micro, Ruwan. Outward shows of hatred come from within. A truly happy person has no patience or room for displacing their anger on others.

      Also, you seem possessive of white women, like Asian men are “stealing” them away from you, which implies that you aren’t getting the white girls you want to begin with. However, there is no stealing, since it’s the lady’s choice. They just aren’t choosing you for obvious reasons.

      But I guess you’ll just try to downplay my views by saying I’m not a real woman, or that I’m deficient in some way. That’s okay.

      To any Asian man reading this, don’t let this guy’s anger at his OWN failings put a cloud over your day. I truly think you would be amazed at how many women, white or not, will show interest in dating you if you make your intentions clear to that special girl. When it gets to be later in your life, you might regret not asking, because you’ll never know if her answer would have been yes.

      • burping

        I doubt an average asian man will be able to pull off attracting a attractive white girl (maybe average to unattractive women) but an average white/latin and black men can attract very attractive white women and other non asian women without too much trouble. Majority of white women and other non asian women are not allowing themselves to be open minded, but it’s not their fault it’s the media run by bunch of white and jewish people and societies ignorance from the media. We live by the media. Just look at why Psy is popular. Does any attractive white girl really think Psy is physically attractive? His songs are overly played and there’s no way…NO WAY is he physically attractive. He’s portly and short, and facially he looks like the NK ruler, plus he uses misogyny in his videos. The only thing going for him is his attitude and popularity which women do find attractive but I’m curious though why he became most popular in the U.S. when no one knows what he’s singing about?? I have a feeling we’re used to seeing asian men being portrayed in stereotypical negative caricatures because of other asian men in the past that influenced popularity of unflattering entertainers like Psy.

      • Kathie Allen

        Really great post, Nicole.

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    • Guest

      Wow!! You really need some serious therapy to be so full of hate. I’m a decent educated real straight white woman (not a porn whore) and I like Asian men. You’re the one who needs a major reality check.

    • Javier

      You are trying to say you get into a relationship solely for the purpose of sex? hey wake up! this ain’t love. know what im saying?

    • Anonymous

      There’s one race even worse off socially and physically than asians. That’s Indians and arabs.

      I mean, look at yourself, you watch porn called “she loves asian cock”. WTF?

  • dragonfly

    I’m a very attractive white woman who is an active person in my church and community , White black and hispanic me chase me , but Asian Indian and Arabic men barely talk to me.
    When I was younger I grew up in a very white town but my mother did the books for our local chinese restraint that was owned by 2 brothers ,They were hansom smart and kind I I had my first crush on the younger brother. Its funny how first crushes can effect our preferences . I’ve dated only 2 asian men but they were both American Asian and both married asian woman .I’m friendly but i’m shy so being the aggressive american woman is hard. My advice would be to ask her for coffee talk get to know each other. You maybe surprised and coffee is innocent .

  • ell

    follow these rules asian guys!! there are more white girls with “yellow fever” than you think!

  • affirmations to attract women

    sounds it is a good tips but in real thing all white woman is having less time looking for a date of an Asian men. There were only seldom dating’s that i seen for an Asian man and white woman. Maybe this tips can be useful for an Asian man to look for what they desire to have a white woman to love.

  • Lenka

    I’m also White and I am too shy to start talking with some Asian :D if are Asians also so shy, there is a small possibility to date them *_*
    Omg please, just don’t be so afraid of us!

    • Carl

      It’s because white girls are so beautiful and we Asians tend to think that we’re out of the white girls league, that’s one of the reason we Asians are shy when facing white gals. :(

    • ohmiyazutto

      I am a white female and enjoy meeting and talking to everyone but am too shy to make the first step.

  • Tony

    I am Vietnamese guy and I dont know why I am completely in love with white women. I have been around with some white girls and feel very happy. The thing is I often get stuck at the friendship zone. Can anyone help me with this? I am looking for a white girlfriend now

    • Tsu Young

      “feel very happy” thats your problem. you were probably acting way too over bearing

  • Guest

    I’m a white woman who has been attracted to Asian men for quite awhile (but, no, I do not have “yellow fever”). I simply prefer dark hair and dark eyes, and I happen to find Asian eyes to be very attractive. The first thing I notice about any person (male or female, any race) is their eyes. I’ve dated several Asian guys because I liked them as people and I really enjoyed their company … not because they were Asian. The problem I ran into is that, when I was younger, the guy’s parents weren’t very happy about their son dating a white girl. There was one Asian guy that I really, really liked a lot (and he liked me too) … but his parents shipped him off to Asia for a month to meet Asian girls selected by a matchmaker. So, he comes home with his Asian bride (which made his parents happy), but she dumped him as soon as she got her green card. And I was left behind in the dust because I was a white girl? I was heartbroken … he was heartbroken … but his parents were happy? What is wrong with this picture? Why can’t people just be with who they enjoy being with, and forget about race, looks, money and other superficial things? We worked for the same company and he left the company after his marriage fiasco. That was about 25 years ago. I never saw him again and I often wonder if he’s happy and if he ever found true love.

    • bruce

      this happened.

      sluthate lurker

  • Javier

    hmm it really do depends. in some countries asian men are really shy but from what i know of, asian man living in singapore are much more open up. Yes no doubt, I’m a singapore man looking for a white girlfriend as well hahahah.

  • Anonymous

    These tips are superficial and do not serve to eliminate the underlying problem

    1) Brainwashing of women through white male media – including asian women – through media. As we grow up, we are all subtly influenced by who we see as desirable through fiction, and who are not (and worse still, to be ridiculed). Media is overhwelmingly created by white men, who of course has created the notion of asian women as being more desirable than their true worth, and asian men as to be ignored. Notice black male leads, especially when having sexual relationships with white or latino women, are written or produced by black people

    2) Lack of/zero social power with asian men – nowadays its all about superficiality and promotion. WHo has the best house parties, clubs,music – basically who can organise and have the power to hold all the strings in the nightlife. It’s no coincidence that many convicted black male drug dealers (and asian in britain – as in south asian) have white gfs (or multiple), because they are the controller, the supplier of their joy to women – whether that be drugs, music, drink – “having a good time”. Like I said, superficial, but to change perceptions, we need to change mainstream thinking, which means delving into this business.

  • Carl

    Really hoping to have an W.F. one day. Ohhh . . one day, one day. <3

  • Ivan Cherkasov

    On my part, I hope to have sex with asian horny girl. I’ve used camsexbabe_com (CHECK it) and now it’s in my bucket list) It sounds a little corny, but Asians are really tiny. If you know what I mean ;)