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Asian American Men and Dating Problems
Written by AlphaK on August 9, 2008
Another problem is the Asian man's lack of social ability. Growing up, Asians were taught to study, work hard, and avoid unnecessary temptations. These things taught to us by our parents have limited our social abilities somewhat. So while our white friends were out partying and hooking up with girls, we were at home studying for our calculus exam. You will be rewarded for your hard work because after school, things only get better for us (better jobs + more money). Learning social skills is definitely easier than learning calculus.
If you were like me and studied a lot in school and barely went out, then you probably know that you lack somewhat in social skills. I remember I had a pal back in High School that was also Asian, not very good looking either, but he hooked up with the hottest girls on campus. Looking back, I realize that it really is the fact that he went to parties and learned how to deal with women that made him such a ladies' man.
So what I did a few years ago (sophomore year in college) was I realized that I needed to get my social life handled and take a few risks. This meant that I had to get out of my comfort zone and experience some things that I previously would never have thought of doing such as going to a nightclub, hitting on girls at a frat party, starting conversations with random strangers. I picked different friends (no longer my World of Warcraft buddies) to hang out with on the weekends. By junior year I had dated three beautiful, spectacular women, and two of them were brunettes (third was Asian).
Start doing some social activities and you will find yourself becoming more and more adept at starting relationships and having a successful dating life.
The last thing I'm going to advise you to do right now is to understand women. Since your parents didn't teach you anything right, you need to learn some things for your own. As an Asian male you were probably taught to make a lot of money so you can support your wife's every desire. Woo her with flowers, jewelry, and give her everything she requests, and then she will come to you. Well I honestly don't know if that works in Asia (highly highly doubt it), but in the States this advice will do the opposite of what you want.
There are a lot of resources on the internet for this kind of thing (AskMen.com is a very good resource), so you definitely should read as much content as you can. I went through a stage where I read up on everything I could but I still wasn't getting the results I desired. Reading will only get you so far, you need to apply the things that you learn.
Girls love to play games with you. Especially the hot ones. The beautiful ones know exactly how to get guys wrapped under their finger so they can play with them as they please. Many girls will keep guys around even if they don't feel any attraction at all. Not only does this boost their ego, but it is a great way for them to get free stuff like dinners, movies, etc. It isn't until a guy truly challenges them that they feel a strong attraction.
Learn how to be challenging to women, learn how to read their signals, learn their tricks, and then learn how to use this knowledge to make them chase you.
Until next post,
AlphaK
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